Tag: THERAPY

Self Esteem In Perspective

Self-esteem is in essence a measurement and runs on a continuum.  We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against impossible criteria and judge ourselves too harshly and produce an inaccurate picture. The end result is a…

Journaling Can Help With Change

In my earlier posts, I have looked in great detail at our thinking traps, how they affect our lives and where they may have come from. I hope it has helped some of you to recognise yourself in them. It is easy to write about what goes wrong, more difficult to put plans into operation…

Book Excerpt: Conflict And The Window Of Opportunity

I generally have many quarrelling couples amongst my clients. You might say some couples are just like that. We all know some that seem to thrive on the tension that exists between them. From my point of view, this is often the norm. Most couples come into therapy because an essential element is missing in…

Change The Way You Think And That Is All You Will Do!

The main message that comes from the self-help industry is “change the way you think, change your life”. While I see this as a mostly effective message, I think it is only half the story . Let’s deal with changing the way you think. We have to start somewhere and realising and recognising irrational thought…

Relationships : Conflict Management is a Choice.

It is my own personal experience, and that of clients, that whoever you choose to have a relationship with, there will be conflict and a lot of it. The paradox to our usual thinking is that the more intense and close a relationship is, the more likely it is that troubled times will come. As…

Suicide : The Warning Signs and What to do

Every 40 seconds somewhere around the world someone dies by suicide, that’s 99 people every 66 minutes. Alcohol makes people more prone to committing suicide by violent methods like hanging, using a firearm or by falling to death, says a new study. Nearly, one-fourth of all suicide cases studied reported that the victim had blood…