Tag: SELF-HELP

How Resentment Is The Silent Killer Of Relationships

In my daily work as a therapist, I deal with couples who are struggling to keep their relationship together. There are many reasons for this and some are more successful than others at working on the issues that divide them. I have found that it really does not matter what the issue is, if the…

Increasing Self Worth, Step 4: Self Discipline And Self Responsibility.

Many people come to an awareness of what they need to do to improve their self esteem. This can be a short process or one that takes a frustratingly long time. There are some who refuse to acknowledge their reality, even if they are aware and there are some who can’t wait to move into…

Increase Your Self-Worth, Step 3: Conscious Thinking And Staying Present In The Moment

Much of our thinking, up to 95%, is on a subconscious level. It helps us navigate the world in form of habit, automatic thinking, processed memories and how those fit into our paradigm. Some automatic thinking is good. Our fight or flight response is based on this as well as learning capacity. From subconscious thinking,…

Understanding The “Parts” of Your Thinking

Many therapeutic approaches deal with our thinking as a major part of the work needed to recover from our ills. CBT, especially, doesn`t look at events but how our perception of the event affects us. It looks at layers of thinking from automatic thoughts to core beliefs as an aid to this. CBT, however, works…

Promote The Self But Thank The Protectors

As part of the 7 Day Challenge, I wrote about polarized thinking and how the battle for control of the various “parts” of our personality can lead us to such extremes as being stuck, procrastination, people pleasing and addiction. The antidote to these “protectors” is the promotion of the “Self”, the logical, reasonable, calm adult voice…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 4: Build A Strategy And Fight Your Demons!

We have so far got through the 7 Day Challenge Day 1, Day 2 and Day 3 where we have checked, challenged and visualized. If you have been following the challenge, you may well have a preferred scenario that you will want to aim for. Some of the things you visualized yesterday might not make the cut…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 3: Visualize Your Preferred Scenario

Today, we reach virtually the halfway point in the 7 Day Challenge. We have covered Day 1 Your Current Scenario and Day 2 What Is Holding You Back? Anyone who is following the challenge might have found Day 2 a little challenging. It is not easy to look at yourself and your own inaction as a reason…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 2: What Is The Lie? What Has Been Holding You Back?

Yesterday, we started the 7 day Challenge with Day 1, Check your Current Scenario, where I asked you to document an issue you might be having in your life that you know needs changing, however big or small.  This might be seen as the easy part of the challenge. We can all find something if we…

The 7 Day Challenge: Day 1, Check Your Current Scenario

Welcome to the 7 Day Challenge where I will be helping you, over the next week, to make at least one change in your life that you are knowingly aware needs making. This is when we name your current scenario and the lie you have been telling yourself to avoid change. It doesn’t need to…