Tag: SELF-HELP

Despite Our Best Efforts To Grow Up, Our Child-like Self Never Really Leaves Us

Any parent will testify the range of emotions associated with bringing up a child. Joy, heartache, worry among others are part and parcel of the package. What parents do while bringing up their child(ren), will have a marked effect on how the child develops a sense of his/herself and how they relate to the world…

Parent Alienation: Further Thoughts and Resources

Last week, I published an article on Parental Alienation and how children are used as weapons against one parent in divorces and separation. I reposted it on my company Facebook page at the same time. The response was remarkable and people freely told their stories and experiences around the subject and indeed widening it to include…

Podcast: Moving On After A Break-Up

Have you just broken up? Feeling bad… Not knowing where to go or what to do? Listen to the new podcast around Dr. Nicholas Jenner’s book “Our Quest For Happily Ever After & Why It sometimes does Not Work’. We discuss a section taken from the third chapter of the book called: “Taking The First Steps…

Survey Says More People Are Happier Post-Divorce With Infidelity Cited As A Cause For Marriage Breakdown

A new survey has suggested that women especially are happier being single, post-divorce and many of them suggest that the men in their lives “had to try harder”. Just what this means was not defined but we all know people in marriages and relationships that have become stale and routine. I would suggest this is…

Life After Narcissism: Further Toxic Or Nourishing? It Is Your Choice!

What next when your worst nightmare is over? Many codependents who manage to extract themselves from toxic or narcissistic relationships are often left with this question. Initially, the big danger is that they end up in another toxic relationship similar to the last. This is the only type of relationship they know and they gravitate…

Narcissism: Why Would You Let Anyone Treat You Like That?

As a therapist and a person who deals in reality and common sense in my own life, it is hard to see some of the decisions that other people make in the name of love and devotion. What happens to the human brain that cannot see the plainly obvious in front of them? Where intelligent,…

Emotional Honesty, Intimacy and Connection. The Key To Relationship Success

Relationship success is something that many of us strive for. Sometimes, this elusive “Holy Grail” escapes all but the very few. I have written here before about the Four Pillars of a functional relationship and how that is the basis if the relationship is to sustain itself long-term. While the four pillars of trust, honesty,…

Codependents: It’s Ok Not To Forgive Your Toxic Parents

The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness.  Religious, psychological and philosophical teachings all tell us that forgiveness is essential. “You have to forgive to be able to move on”, they…

Childhood: Where Codependency All Starts

It has been said that a large part of the global population is codependent on something or somebody. That something could be work, substances, alcohol. That somebody could be a partner, parent or boss. Yes, there are many ways to be codependent and many are codependent towards more than one “object” leading to a fairly…