Tag: SELF-HELP

How Your Mind Works Put Simply

I have just finished writing a series of codependency stories where I documented various aspects of situations people found themselves in and how different aspects of their character defined how they saw the situation and ultimately how they behaved. Many showed extreme reactions to the environment around them and some were working on assumptions. I…

Codependency Stories Day 13: Trauma Bonding With A Narcissist

Today we meet J who is in an abusive relationship with S. In therapy, she has documented evidence of frequent physical, emotional and verbal abuse. She has lost all her self-confidence that she claimed to have had before and spends most of her time wondering why she is in the kind of relationship she is…

Codependency Stories Day 12: Narcissist Grandparent

Today, we meet C who is having trouble with her mother-in-law and is looking to her husband to set boundaries. Something he finds difficult to do due to his codependency with his mother who he tries to please at all costs. He was the “golden child” and was taught that her needs were more important…

Codependency Stories Day 9: Resignation And Fear

Today, we meet MW who is in a relationship with an abusive, alcoholic partner. A partner who often cheats and shows no empathy towards her. Drinking is one of his many addictions and MW finds it hard to take that step and leave despite knowing that she is being taken advantage of. Logically, she knows…

Codependency Stories Day 8: No-Contact

Welcome to the latest episode of codependency stories. The situations described in these stories are fictional and do not specifically depict real life cases but are based on a number of different people and situations. They will hopefully, resonate with anyone who suffers from codependent issues as they are based on my experience of treating…

Codependency Stories Day 7: Addiction

Today, we highlight T who cannot seem to keep away from the “bad boys”. Time after time, she has been involved with men who have ultimately left her emotionally, physically and financially ruined. Yet she still goes back for more and cannot seem to help herself. This last time has been especially hard. After trying…

Codependency Stories Day 5

In Day 5, I highlight J who found out he was codependent after starting therapy. J is a successful business man who by his own admission “can’t live alone”. He also is often attracted to emotionally distant, sometimes abusive types who take advantage of his good nature. He tries “to fix them” and is often…

Codependency Stories Day 4: Day 1 Revisited

Today, we revisit our situation in day 1. A is still struggling after a major conflict with B. Things have settled but A’s thoughts are not in the right place. She is fighting codependent tendencies while B has moved on confident that the matter has been resolved. Without discussion, she is living and coping with…

Codependency Stories Day 3

Today we meet R. An elderly woman who has been married for 40 years to an emotionally distant husband in a very dysfunctional relationship. The physical side of their relationship is non-existent and things at home are complicated by the fact that their 35-year-old son still lives at home. Her husband tries to spend as little…

Codependency Stories Day 2

Welcome  to the second day of the Codependent Stories. M is a fictional character based on my client’s experiences. All events depicted here actually happened in someone’s life (or a group of people) in the last week. Permission was sought to use life events but no names have been revealed…… I have been offering online therapy for…