Tag: self forgiveness

The Fear Factor

The old saying goes “Life is about choices. If you don’t like your life, make better choices”.  This is totally correct. We make choices about most of the things that happen to us in our lives. We can choose to stay in a relationship or go, we can mostly choose to be happy or sad,…

How CBT can help with Maladaptive Thinking

I can’t quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went ” You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you”. As time marches on, this gem becomes more and more relevant but…

Know More About How Stress Affects Your Body and Mind

In recent years, there has been a massive increase in mental health issues across all genders, age groups and cultures. This is a problem that will increase and will probably get worse before it gets better. Many people go through life accepting their problems, seeing them as “normal” or as a an inevitable consequence of…

Online therapy : What do clients think?

The online side of my business is becoming bigger than I ever expected. Despite the challenges of working across time zones and cultures, it has been a rewarding experience so far. Many people reading this will have heard of online therapy but might find it hard to imagine how it works. What better than to hear…

Making the change : You as the star of your own story!

In my earlier posts, I have looked in great detail at our thinking traps, how they affect our lives and where they may have come from. I hope it has helped some of you to recognise yourself in them. It is easy to write about what goes wrong, more difficult to put plans into operation to…

Re-parenting your Inner Child

We have seen clearly in my previous set of posts how an inner critic is formed from the defence mechanisms used by the wounded, criticised child and how these can be taken forward into adulthood. Part of the process of dealing with the inner critic and the chaos it causes is to re-parent our inner…

Accepting Failure and Learning from it

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat.  It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only  by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. Failure is something we all must come to terms with. Businesses and relationships fail to make it, targets are…

The Mental Torment of Sexually Abused Children

It is estimated that up to fifty percent of sexual abuse victims who receive medical treatment after episodes of abuse carry no physical scars at all. However, it is also estimated that all of them will carry the mental scars for most, if not all of their lives. This makes perfect sense. Abuse victims often report…