Tag: self forgiveness

With Narcissists, Action Always Speaks Louder Than Words

When we start a new relationship, we let a few things go that we might not later. We don’t always set boundaries or recognise so-called ‘red flags’. The adrenaline is just running too high and that is just the way we want it. We want to enjoy this new feeling before routine sets in and…

Stay Or Go: Its A Choice And Every Choice Has A Consequence

There will be many people who have started the year with the thought that they need to change their relationship status from attached to unattached. Those same people might also have had that thought last year and the year before and maybe even the year before that. The daily grind of ineffective communication, sweating the…

Partners And Spouses Can Truly Help The Therapeutic Process

Let’s face it, therapy is hard work. Undertaking the process means facing things that have been sometimes locked away for years. Once you open that door, you are never sure who or what will come through it. One thing is for sure, therapy is not some Harry Potter type magic that can wipe away issues…

When Negative Thinking Is Perfectly Justified

Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ? Sounds crazy and not too healthy but there are times when this kind of thinking can certainly be justified. Name any self-help book found on the shelves of any…

Podcast: The Love Hangover. Why Codependents Get Stuck

As a codependent, it is tough to end a toxic relationship. However, many codependents falter while dealing with the aftermath and being alone. Learn how you can navigate yourself through this process.   Blogposts and videos mentioned in this podcast are available here: – (Blogpost) Codependency: getting what you truly want is scary: https://freefromcodependency.com/2017… –…

6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up 4 to 6

Continuing my post on moving on from a bad breakup, let’s look at steps 4 to 6: Watch that Rebound! There are those people who seem to jump from one dysfunctional relationship and straight into another. There are differing opinions about rebound relationships and what role they play in recovery. It has been suggested that…

Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts

Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote ” try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labours is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways.” Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?…

Inner Child Therapy

I have always held a keen interest in Inner Child Therapy and incorporate it into my work with clients as much as possible. I truly believe that it can touch the root of client’s issues in a way that other methods find difficult. Just recently, I have experienced with clients, some fantastic experiences. I thought…

Six Things You Must Have in Your Relationship

I have written many times here {as well as telling my clients} that the basis of any relationship is trust, honesty, respect and the mutual meeting of each other’s needs. I wholeheartedly stand by that as a positive and definite statement. If a relationship doesn’t have these elements, it is generally dead in the water.…