Tag: PARENTING

Why We Defend Our Less Than Perfect Parents

I would like to say at this point that no parent is a perfect parent.Everyone tends to parent as they were parented, good or bad. Thats the only “manual” for some. However, what is often forgotten is how sensitive children are to the environment around them. An environment created by parents and consolidated by the…

Codependency: How A Parent Can Make The Difference

There are all types of parents and all types of parenting styles. Parents normally parent how they were parented themselves, good or bad. Where else would they get the knowledge they need? It is their first point of reference and this is sometimes why the same issues run through generations of the same family. I…

Counter-dependency: Fleeing Intimacy And Connection

Many of my recent posts have delved into some of the root causes of codependency and how developmental trauma plays a major role. This puts parenting (or the lack of it) at the centre of discussion. As I discussed recently in a post The Roots Of Codependency, we all go through a codependent phase, just…

Asking A Question Sometimes Helps

I run a feature on my blog titled Ask Me A Question. It is there so anyone can pose a question concerning their situation, disorder, relationship or anything else that they want some advice on. Over the years, it has been a popular feature and I like to think that it might have helped at…

Recovery from Codependency Is Ultimately About Making The Right Choices

There are many programs that one can subscribe to in order to recover from a codependent life. All of them offer something different from different angles and theories. There are many good therapists and coaches doing good work in order to help others find a new way. My opinion is that codependency is better looked…

The Lack Of Psychological Birth That Leads To Codependency

Codependency is not a disease and should not be treated like one. When managed care systems finally recognise it as a disorder, there will surely be a push to apply a medical model to recovery, where such systems are only willing to pay for a few sessions supplemented by medication. It is my firm opinion…

A Childhood Guaranteed To Foster Codependency.

It has been said that a large part of the global population is codependent on something or somebody. That something could be work, substances, alcohol. That somebody could be a partner, parent or boss. Yes, there are many ways to be codependent and many are codependent towards more than one “object” leading to a fairly…

Spanking Doesn’t Work And Drives Bad Behaviour Underground

Over the weekend, I witnessed a physical assault on a young child. You might not be surprised to know that he was with his parents at the time. I was in a store with my wife and a couple who had previously allowed their young boy to run around unattended, suddenly sprung into action when…