Tag: parenting style

Why We Defend Our Less Than Perfect Parents

I would like to say at this point that no parent is a perfect parent.Everyone tends to parent as they were parented, good or bad. Thats the only “manual” for some. However, what is often forgotten is how sensitive children are to the environment around them. An environment created by parents and consolidated by the…

Codependency: How A Parent Can Make The Difference

There are all types of parents and all types of parenting styles. Parents normally parent how they were parented themselves, good or bad. Where else would they get the knowledge they need? It is their first point of reference and this is sometimes why the same issues run through generations of the same family. I…

Counter-dependency: Fleeing Intimacy And Connection

Many of my recent posts have delved into some of the root causes of codependency and how developmental trauma plays a major role. This puts parenting (or the lack of it) at the centre of discussion. As I discussed recently in a post The Roots Of Codependency, we all go through a codependent phase, just…

Recovery from Codependency Is Ultimately About Making The Right Choices

There are many programs that one can subscribe to in order to recover from a codependent life. All of them offer something different from different angles and theories. There are many good therapists and coaches doing good work in order to help others find a new way. My opinion is that codependency is better looked…

The Lack Of Psychological Birth That Leads To Codependency

Codependency is not a disease and should not be treated like one. When managed care systems finally recognise it as a disorder, there will surely be a push to apply a medical model to recovery, where such systems are only willing to pay for a few sessions supplemented by medication. It is my firm opinion…

A Childhood Guaranteed To Foster Codependency.

It has been said that a large part of the global population is codependent on something or somebody. That something could be work, substances, alcohol. That somebody could be a partner, parent or boss. Yes, there are many ways to be codependent and many are codependent towards more than one “object” leading to a fairly…

Controlling Codependency: Keeping Others In Line

Narcissists always get a bad press and probably rightly so. (At this point, we should note that we should only use the term narcissist when someone has been officially diagnosed with NPD. Also, there are degrees of narcissism). The common belief is that they are void of compassion and empathy and are not capable of…

Positive Discipline : The importance of autonomy for children

As children grow older, they like to explore and push boundaries. What they are looking for is a sense of autonomy and self-confidence, an important cog in the wheel of development. The way parents handle this is crucial for the child’s development.When children are not allowed to explore in a child proof home or are punished…

How Our Childhood Never Really Leaves Us..Until It Does

There is an old saying that goes “One day in your life, you will look in the mirror and see your parent looking back at you”. Many of us carry features of our parents personality and behaviour in the way we look at the world, which is of course, natural. They did produce us and…