Tag: monkey on your back

Allow Your Child To Push The Boundaries!

It`s Easter Sunday in the Christian world and many children will be allowed to do what they are usually not allowed to do. Eat chocolate in massive proportions! Rightly or wrongly, holidays such as this, along with Christmas mean that parents mostly drop the barriers and allow their children a bit more freedom. However, it…

Book Excerpt: What Are You Prepared To Do For Your Relationship?

“Being involved romantically with another human being is to use a famous quote “the best and worst of times”. We proclaim our love, often far too quickly, and make irrational decisions. We believe we can take on the world and our own world is in order. Though when it goes wrong, things swing quickly in…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 7: Take Action And Take It Now!

  We are at the pinnacle of the 7 Day Challenge, the last day. We have slowly worked through various topics and have finally reached the moment to take action to make a change….scary, right? For some of you who have followed the challenge over the past six days, you have probably been at this…

The 7 Day Challenge: Day 1, Check Your Current Scenario

Welcome to the 7 Day Challenge where I will be helping you, over the next week, to make at least one change in your life that you are knowingly aware needs making. This is when we name your current scenario and the lie you have been telling yourself to avoid change. It doesn’t need to…

E17 The Love Hangover: Why Codependents Get Stuck (Podcast With Dr. Nicholas Jenner)

As a codependent, it is tough to end a toxic relationship. However, many codependents falter while dealing with the aftermath and being alone. Learn how you can navigate yourself through this process.   Blogposts and videos mentioned in this podcast are available here: – (Blogpost) Codependency: getting what you truly want is scary: https://freefromcodependency.com/2017… –…

Is Your Ex Complicating Your New Relationship?

During couples therapy, many reasons for a lack of harmony come out. Infidelity, lack of communication skills, losing interest in the relationship amongst others, are commonly cited as troublesome for one or both people. All are very valid reasons for seeking help. However, one complicating factor that is sometimes present is the presence of an…

Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts

Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote ” try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labors is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways.” Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?…

Think Team Relationship in Conflict

Anyone who tells you that conflict does not happen in their relationship probably lives alone! Conflict is an inevitable consequence of two human beings coming together to attempt to form a relationship. It is not the issue of whether conflict will happen but more how it will be handled when it does. As a couples…

Dealing with Perfectionism: The killer Of Self-esteem

Many people who suffer from low self-esteem are driven by unhelpful thinking about the standards they have set themselves in order to feel good about themselves. If you are one of these people then you have a lot in common with most of the clients I see. A commonality is that they are usually bright and intelligent and have achieved relative…