Tag: inner peace

With Narcissists, Action Always Speaks Louder Than Words

When we start a new relationship, we let a few things go that we might not later. We don’t always set boundaries or recognise so-called ‘red flags’. The adrenaline is just running too high and that is just the way we want it. We want to enjoy this new feeling before routine sets in and…

Working With Your Inner Critic

There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them. While this can be useful, we have to remember that by isolating the critic and pushing it away, we are maybe losing an ideal opportunity…

Podcast: The Love Hangover. Why Codependents Get Stuck

As a codependent, it is tough to end a toxic relationship. However, many codependents falter while dealing with the aftermath and being alone. Learn how you can navigate yourself through this process.   Blogposts and videos mentioned in this podcast are available here: – (Blogpost) Codependency: getting what you truly want is scary: https://freefromcodependency.com/2017… –…

Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts

Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote ” try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labours is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways.” Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?…

How Childhood Abuse Can Subdue The Inner Child

When we think about child abuse, our thoughts often stop at sexual abuse of minors. However, the term child abuse, often replaced by child maltreatment, has a broad spectrum of definition. The WHO defines it as follows : “Child maltreatment, sometimes referred to as child abuse and neglect, includes all forms of physical and emotional ill-treatment,…

Dealing with Perfectionism: The killer Of Self-esteem

Many people who suffer from low self-esteem are driven by unhelpful thinking about the standards they have set themselves in order to feel good about themselves. If you are one of these people then you have a lot in common with most of the clients I see. A commonality is that they are usually bright and intelligent and have achieved relative…

Mental Health Still Carries a Stigma

When I was young, my family would often travel to a nearby town to visit family friends. As a child, it was not my favorite pastime and I often felt forced to play with the kids in the family which at that age was a chore. However, the father of the family was the big…

Getting Through that “Black Cloud” Day

You know the feeling, everything you touch, say, plan or think goes wrong and you wonder why you got out of bed that morning. Having a bad day, of course happens to all of us occasionally and the reasons for it are generally unknown especially as not just activities  tend to go wrong but this is…

Loving your Inner Child

Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience. Our inner child is the full complement of childhood feelings, needs and memories. It is very helpful to picture…