Tag: depression

Loss Is A Key Element Of Depression

Life is such that we never get all that we want and this is probably just as well. When we taste some amount of success, we are usually rightly elated for a short time.  However, part of this is that we have also to get used to loss when things go against us. Whether it…

Codependent Stories Day 11: Alcoholism And Enabling

Today we meet S who is married to a functioning alcoholic. He has been that way since they met and despite her protests, has never looked to change or to respect her wishes. In therapy, she constantly complains about him and how he treats her but will enable him and his issues by avoiding talking…

Codependents And Alcoholics: Keeping The Addiction Cycle Turning

There is much written on the internet (including by me) about the “new codependency”, the “love addiction”, documenting poor souls trapped in relationships with “narcissist”, emotionally distant partners. In therapy, we quite rightly talk about how to fix the broken childhood of neglect and abuse that created the situation in the first place. We always…

How Codependency Can Make You Sick

I believe firmly that it is only a matter of time before codependency becomes a recognised disorder. As discussed many times by this author, I have been challenged on occasions to prove that codependency truly exists and is not just a symptom of another disorder. The many clients I have who show similar debilitating symptoms…

Making Sure Depression Does Not Define You

I once read a very interesting description of depression. It went something like: “I am depression. I am cold like the Arctic mist, I dampen your spirits and your soul. I fill your mind with gloom. When I appear, you are but a withered leaf under wet snow. But I can do much more. I can…

Loved Ones Of Suicide Victims Need More Support

I have seen and read many articles about the two very recent high profile suicides that have unfortunately occurred. Due to the celebrity status of the people involved, the cases were given much publicity and debate as to how and why. If anything at all positive can come from this coverage, it is that the…

The 7 Day Challenge: Day 1, Check Your Current Scenario

Welcome to the 7 Day Challenge where I will be helping you, over the next week, to make at least one change in your life that you are knowingly aware needs making. This is when we name your current scenario and the lie you have been telling yourself to avoid change. It doesn’t need to…

The Best Advice Of The Week

At the moment, I am ploughing through the latest offering from Jordan Peterson, 12 Rules For Life…An Antidote To Chaos. I say ploughing because it is somewhat heavy going with its frequent references and links to religion and the bible as a reference. These, of course are much more relevant if you believe those events…