Tag: couples therapy

Conditioning can be changed but it takes hard work and awareness.

A client who has been coming to therapy for quite some time, recently had a revelation where she finally realised that her family had conditioned her as a child to believe that she needed to behave in a certain way. Intellectually, she always knew this but emotionally she could not accept it. She had always…

The Value Of Assignments In Therapy Cannot Be Understated

One of my clients said to me the other day that she had seen many therapists but no-one like me. While I was still trying to work out whether this was a compliment or not, she clarified this by saying that she has had more contact with me in three months than with others in…

Codependency Stories Day 4: Day 1 Revisited

Today, we revisit our situation in day 1. A is still struggling after a major conflict with B. Things have settled but A’s thoughts are not in the right place. She is fighting codependent tendencies while B has moved on confident that the matter has been resolved. Without discussion, she is living and coping with…

Increasing Your Self Worth, Step 1: Know How The Mind Works

In your lifetime, irrespective of advances in technology, you will probably not come across a more capable computer than the one you have in your head, your mind. Its capabilities are endless and mostly unknown to us. It has been said that we probably use about 10 percent of its given potential and if we…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 7: Take Action And Take It Now!

We are at the pinnacle of the 7 Day Challenge, the last day. We have slowly worked through various topics and have finally reached the moment to take action to make a change….scary, right? For some of you who have followed the challenge over the past six days, you have probably been at this point…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 6: Test Your Commitment

If you have been following the 7 Day Challenge, you might well now have reached the point where you have identified an issue, tested your resistance, looked at possible solutions and looked at your thinking around this and tried to beat your demons. Today, I am asking you to commit to changing that issue before…

The 7 Day Challenge: Day 1, Check Your Current Scenario

Welcome to the 7 Day Challenge where I will be helping you, over the next week, to make at least one change in your life that you are knowingly aware needs making. This is when we name your current scenario and the lie you have been telling yourself to avoid change. It doesn’t need to…

The Boundaries In Therapy Need To be Maintained.

Just where are the boundaries between therapist and client? What can you expect your therapist to divulge about himself and his view on the world? This is often one of the confusing aspects of therapy for many clients. Irvin Yalom has been an advocate of having a less rigid approach to therapy in certain cases, though…