Tag: consequences of child abuse

Where Do You Rank On The Measure Of Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is in essence a measurement.  We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against impossible criteria and judge ourselves too harshly and produce an inaccurate picture. I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years.…

Codependency: Stopping Generational Dysfunction

We all have unresolved issues from our past, some conscious and some that we are not aware of. These issues, if not dealt with can have a huge effect on our relationship with our own children and subsequently moves the issue from one generation to the next. I have been offering online therapy for over…

Introducing A New Season Of Podcasts: Use Your Internal Family To Move Forward

The best way to example the upcoming podcasts is with a personal anecdote. This example, I believe, highlights perfectly the internal struggle we all have daily when triggered, when overwhelmed, when ruminating and when trying to make a decision about our lives. I was about ten years old when I remember being with my siblings…

How Abused Children Look Away From Their Parents For Guidance

Children who are subject to abuse of any sort often look for help outside of the family in their quest for recovery. Often abandoned emotionally and bruised physically, they cannot find solace within the family unit which was often responsible for the abuse in the first place. The following quote says much about why children…

Increasing Your Self Worth, Step 1: Know How The Mind Works

In your lifetime, irrespective of advances in technology, you will probably not come across a more capable computer than the one you have in your head, your mind. Its capabilities are endless and mostly unknown to us. It has been said that we probably use about 10 percent of its given potential and if we…

Book Excerpt: What Are You Prepared To Do For Your Relationship?

“Being involved romantically with another human being is to use a famous quote “the best and worst of times”. We proclaim our love, often far too quickly, and make irrational decisions. We believe we can take on the world and our own world is in order. Though when it goes wrong, things swing quickly in…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 6: Test Your Commitment

If you have been following the 7 Day Challenge, you might well now have reached the point where you have identified an issue, tested your resistance, looked at possible solutions and looked at your thinking around this and tried to beat your demons. Today, I am asking you to commit to changing that issue before…

When The Blind Love For My Parents Turned To Fear Then Pity: A Dilemma We All Face

The reaction to my recent article, What My Violent, Abusive, Neglectful Parents Taught Me About Being A Man HERE was extraordinary. Apart from the comments on the post itself, I had various emails and comments on other sites from people who had shared similar experiences and had moved forward. Some felt a sense of hope that…

New Podcast: Doing The Right Thing, What That Means And How To Get There!

At the beginning of therapy, it is important firstly,  to offer a manageable framework to bring the client to a realization of how they can change things around in terms of tools and concepts. A point is reached sooner or later where decisive action is needed by the client in terms of behavioral change to…

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