How To Deal with a Messy Breakup
Here are some steps to help you navigate through this difficult time and eventually move on.
Here are some steps to help you navigate through this difficult time and eventually move on.
In emotional incest, the parent may treat the child as a surrogate partner, confidant, or emotional outlet, sharing intimate details about their own life, feelings, and problems that are not age-appropriate or healthy for the child to handle.
Caveat: If you are in a physical or emotionally abusive or controlling, coercive relationship, protect yourself by getting support in order to leave. I have used the word tormentor here as a play on words with mentor, not in its literal sense.
Codependents are not escaping or addicts of some sort. They are using relationships to function and bring stability in the only way they know. This is done by managing and controlling the environment around them.
Exiles, also known as child parts, may become trapped in the past, unable to move on from the pain and fear of their past experiences.
I know from my own experience of codependency that this isolation and feeling of loneliness can be crippling.
Remember, while personal growth is valuable, it's essential to strike a balance and ensure that both partners are actively working on themselves for the benefit of the relationship.
I am possibly the happiest and fittest I have been for many years. I certainly feel contented to the point that I am truly focussed on what is coming up.
The conundrum at hand pertains to the fact that their search efforts are being directed to the wrong place.
But these things are built over time and there is a lot of work to do before that. Building towards this above often means navigating various relationship stages.
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