Tag: children of divorced parents

Why We Defend Our Less Than Perfect Parents

I would like to say at this point that no parent is a perfect parent.Everyone tends to parent as they were parented, good or bad. Thats the only “manual” for some. However, what is often forgotten is how sensitive children are to the environment around them. An environment created by parents and consolidated by the…

Asking A Question Sometimes Helps

I run a feature on my blog titled Ask Me A Question. It is there so anyone can pose a question concerning their situation, disorder, relationship or anything else that they want some advice on. Over the years, it has been a popular feature and I like to think that it might have helped at…

Parental Alienation: A Call For Action

In an ideal world, there would be no divorce or separation and children would grow up in healthy, happy homes with two loving parents who loved each other and them. Reality tells us that while this sometimes happens, many times it doesn’t and marriages and relationships fail. Children placed in these situations should not only…

Helping Your Child Through Your Divorce

The period following a formal separation involves many life changes and decisions – and all of them have an impact on younger and older children. It is essential for the child’s security that a basis of trust and honesty is built-up between the parents. Even if said trust is difficult and dishonesty has played a…

Make Divorce About The Kids, Not You!

Divorce is an ugly business. Anyone who has been through it will testify to the emotional turmoil associated with it. Even the one who instigated the proceedings can be very badly affected by the process. Apart from the emotional issues, there is the legal and mediation process to deal with. No-one is quite the same…

Change for the better: The role of a Father

As I work longer with clients, it is clear that the parenting style that they were subjected to as a child is extremely important in determining how they see the world. This conditioning is often taken into adulthood and causes dysfunction in relationships and in life generally. The role both parents play is important but new research…