Tag: child maltreatment

Where Do You Rank On The Measure Of Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is in essence a measurement.  We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against impossible criteria and judge ourselves too harshly and produce an inaccurate picture. I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years.…

Codependency: Stopping Generational Dysfunction

We all have unresolved issues from our past, some conscious and some that we are not aware of. These issues, if not dealt with can have a huge effect on our relationship with our own children and subsequently moves the issue from one generation to the next. I have been offering online therapy for over…

Introducing A New Season Of Podcasts: Use Your Internal Family To Move Forward

The best way to example the upcoming podcasts is with a personal anecdote. This example, I believe, highlights perfectly the internal struggle we all have daily when triggered, when overwhelmed, when ruminating and when trying to make a decision about our lives. I was about ten years old when I remember being with my siblings…

Masochistic Codependency: Identifying As A Perpetual Victim

Originally posted on Codependency Is Not Love With Dr. Nicholas Jenner:
I doubt you will find the term “masochistic codependency” anywhere. It has, though, come to the fore in my mind many times when treating full-blown codependency. By full- blown, I mean six on a scale of one to five, five being the highest level.…

Challenge Yourself To Be A Better Parent! Your Child Will Thank You For It

There is an old assumption that whatever you tell a therapist, he or she will always “blame the parents”. Most self-help and psychology works that center on conditioning and change point primarily to the time when our caregivers had the most influence over us. This is not often seen as positive and is usually cited…

Increasing Your Self Worth, Step 1: Know How The Mind Works

In your lifetime, irrespective of advances in technology, you will probably not come across a more capable computer than the one you have in your head, your mind. Its capabilities are endless and mostly unknown to us. It has been said that we probably use about 10 percent of its given potential and if we…

Allow Your Child To Push The Boundaries!

It`s Easter Sunday in the Christian world and many children will be allowed to do what they are usually not allowed to do. Eat chocolate in massive proportions! Rightly or wrongly, holidays such as this, along with Christmas mean that parents mostly drop the barriers and allow their children a bit more freedom. However, it…

When The Blind Love For My Parents Turned To Fear Then Pity: A Dilemma We All Face

The reaction to my recent article, What My Violent, Abusive, Neglectful Parents Taught Me About Being A Man HERE was extraordinary. Apart from the comments on the post itself, I had various emails and comments on other sites from people who had shared similar experiences and had moved forward. Some felt a sense of hope that…

New Podcast: Doing The Right Thing, What That Means And How To Get There!

At the beginning of therapy, it is important firstly,  to offer a manageable framework to bring the client to a realization of how they can change things around in terms of tools and concepts. A point is reached sooner or later where decisive action is needed by the client in terms of behavioral change to…