Tag: child abuse survivors

Where Do You Rank On The Measure Of Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is in essence a measurement.  We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against impossible criteria and judge ourselves too harshly and produce an inaccurate picture. I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years.…

Codependency: Stopping Generational Dysfunction

We all have unresolved issues from our past, some conscious and some that we are not aware of. These issues, if not dealt with can have a huge effect on our relationship with our own children and subsequently moves the issue from one generation to the next. I have been offering online therapy for over…

The Cost Of Appeasing The Gods That Are Our Toxic Parents

In our childhood, we have a huge problem. We idolise those who brought us into the world unconditionally. They are Gods to us and our source of supply for everything we need and wish. As children start to develop, they come to realise that the Gods who could do no wrong are just as flawed…

Increasing Your Self Worth, Step 1: Know How The Mind Works

In your lifetime, irrespective of advances in technology, you will probably not come across a more capable computer than the one you have in your head, your mind. Its capabilities are endless and mostly unknown to us. It has been said that we probably use about 10 percent of its given potential and if we…

Book Excerpt: What Are You Prepared To Do For Your Relationship?

“Being involved romantically with another human being is to use a famous quote “the best and worst of times”. We proclaim our love, often far too quickly, and make irrational decisions. We believe we can take on the world and our own world is in order. Though when it goes wrong, things swing quickly in…

Codependents: Focus on Your Self Care Before Caring For Others!

It always fascinates me when I fly anywhere and the flight personnel go through the safety checks. When they get to the oxygen mask, they always point out that you should always fit your own mask before helping anyone else. Most codependents might see this a different way but the advice is the correct one…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 6: Test Your Commitment

If you have been following the 7 Day Challenge, you might well now have reached the point where you have identified an issue, tested your resistance, looked at possible solutions and looked at your thinking around this and tried to beat your demons. Today, I am asking you to commit to changing that issue before…