Tag: Alcoholism

Codependent Stories Day 11: Alcoholism And Enabling

Today we meet S who is married to a functioning alcoholic. He has been that way since they met and despite her protests, has never looked to change or to respect her wishes. In therapy, she constantly complains about him and how he treats her but will enable him and his issues by avoiding talking…

The Week That Was: Titbits From The Last 7 Days

It has been a busy week in my online therapy practice and a few insights have been gained. As always when I right these types of post, no personal or specific details will be given. A New Podcast Is Coming. Two weeks ago, we produced the first podcast of a new season. It covered how…

Choice Not Impulse Moves Codependents Forward

Anyone who is a regular reader of my work will know that I work with a lot of codependents who generally share a similar set of behaviour patterns with each other. Codependents are generally very nice people who have often been taken advantage of many times but have also been in situations where they have…

The Lengths That Some Will Go To Keep Their Partner Happy

There is a storyline that runs in the well-known tv series Breaking Bad when one of the main characters rents a house from a woman who he develops a relationship with. As he is an addict, she also falls into the same addiction “because she loves him”. In the end this “love” proves her downfall…

Codependents And Alcoholics: Keeping The Addiction Cycle Turning

There is much written on the internet (including by me) about the “new codependency”, the “love addiction”, documenting poor souls trapped in relationships with “narcissist”, emotionally distant partners. In therapy, we quite rightly talk about how to fix the broken childhood of neglect and abuse that created the situation in the first place. We always…

What Patrick Melrose Can Teach Us About Inner Child Therapy

I do not watch much television these days. However, occasionally something catches my attention and Patrick Melrose has certainly done that. For those of you who are not familiar with the name, The Patrick Melrose Novels are a series of semi-autobiographical works by Edward St Aubyn. Set in the upper crust world of English aristocracy,…