Tag: addiction

How Our Childhood Never Really Leaves Us..Until It Does

There is an old saying that goes “One day in your life, you will look in the mirror and see your parent looking back at you”. Many of us carry features of our parents personality and behaviour in the way we look at the world, which is of course, natural. They did produce us and…

Codependent Stories Day 11: Alcoholism And Enabling

Today we meet S who is married to a functioning alcoholic. He has been that way since they met and despite her protests, has never looked to change or to respect her wishes. In therapy, she constantly complains about him and how he treats her but will enable him and his issues by avoiding talking…

Codependency Stories Day 9: Resignation And Fear

Today, we meet MW who is in a relationship with an abusive, alcoholic partner. A partner who often cheats and shows no empathy towards her. Drinking is one of his many addictions and MW finds it hard to take that step and leave despite knowing that she is being taken advantage of. Logically, she knows…

Codependency Stories Day 7: Addiction

Today, we highlight T who cannot seem to keep away from the “bad boys”. Time after time, she has been involved with men who have ultimately left her emotionally, physically and financially ruined. Yet she still goes back for more and cannot seem to help herself. This last time has been especially hard. After trying…

The Lengths That Some Will Go To Keep Their Partner Happy

There is a storyline that runs in the well-known tv series Breaking Bad when one of the main characters rents a house from a woman who he develops a relationship with. As he is an addict, she also falls into the same addiction “because she loves him”. In the end this “love” proves her downfall…

Codependents And Alcoholics: Keeping The Addiction Cycle Turning

There is much written on the internet (including by me) about the “new codependency”, the “love addiction”, documenting poor souls trapped in relationships with “narcissist”, emotionally distant partners. In therapy, we quite rightly talk about how to fix the broken childhood of neglect and abuse that created the situation in the first place. We always…

Scandal: Opioid lawsuit targets rich family behind drug that fueled US crisis

Purdue Pharma is already defending lawsuits from several states and local governments, but Massachusetts is the first state to take the unusual step of personally naming the company’s executives in a complaint, the state attorney general, Maura Healey, said. It names 16 current and former executives and board members, including the chief executive, Craig Landau,…

What Patrick Melrose Can Teach Us About Inner Child Therapy

I do not watch much television these days. However, occasionally something catches my attention and Patrick Melrose has certainly done that. For those of you who are not familiar with the name, The Patrick Melrose Novels are a series of semi-autobiographical works by Edward St Aubyn. Set in the upper crust world of English aristocracy,…

Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be. I have written…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 4: Build A Strategy And Fight Your Demons!

We have so far got through the 7 Day Challenge Day 1, Day 2 and Day 3 where we have checked, challenged and visualized. If you have been following the challenge, you may well have a preferred scenario that you will want to aim for. Some of the things you visualized yesterday might not make the cut…