Narcissists And “Magical Thinking”: An Avoidance Of Shame
Narcissists avoid shame at all costs. It is their nemesis or “kryptonite”, if you want to see it that way. It’s not clear where the roots of narcissism start but…
Tag: abuse victims
How Our Childhood Never Really Leaves Us..Until It Does
There is an old saying that goes “One day in your life, you will look in the mirror and see your parent looking back at you”. Many of us carry…
Codependency Stories Day 13: Trauma Bonding With A Narcissist
Today we meet J who is in an abusive relationship with S. In therapy, she has documented evidence of frequent physical, emotional and verbal abuse. She has lost all her…
After Narcissist Abuse: Avoiding The Gaslighting That Will Certainly Come
The time has finally come. Your friendly neighbourhood narcissist has decided to ship out and move on to his next victim. The disappointment, guilt and feelings of being abused hurt…
Codependency: Why No Contact After Narcissist Abuse Is Essential But It’s Not As Simple As It Sounds
It is common advice when recovering from narcissist abuse to go “no-contact” or more simply put, cut the person completely out of your life and block any possibility they have…
Codependency: Why Red Flags Give Us All The Information We Need
“The red flags are usually there, you just have to keep your eyes open wider than your heart.” ― April Mae Monterrosa In my daily work with codependents, I hear a…
Narcissism: Why Would You Let Anyone Treat You Like That?
As a therapist and a person who deals in reality and common sense in my own life, it is hard to see some of the decisions that other people make…
Should You Bother Trying To Set Boundaries With A Narcissist?
I talk a lot about boundaries. I believe they are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Setting boundaries means being emotionally honest, assertive and it means protect your emotional and…