Recognise your Inner Critic

“I am really driven, but my drive doesn’t affect the conversations I have in my head about life, and my worries and fears and insecurities.” Zach Braff .  The concept of an inner critic is well known but most people have to deal with more than one manifestation. There might be one that attacks you for doing…

The Strength That is Your Inner Child

I have always held a keen interest in Inner Child Therapy and incorporate it into my work with clients as much as possible. I truly believe that it can touch the root of client’s issues in a way that other methods find difficult. Just recently, I have experienced with clients, some fantastic experiences. I thought…

Inner Child Therapy: Take Yourself in Your Arms!

The powerful experience that is inner child therapy often opens doors that have been closed for many years. This process brings understanding of what was, bringing clarity to what is and can be. Being in contact with our inner child who has been abused is especially hard due mainly to the coping mechanisms and survival…

Facing Those Difficult Tasks…

We all do it. We convince ourselves that filing our tax return or planning that career move can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month. We bury our heads in the sand waiting for the right time, knowing that the right time is usually right now. We beat ourselves up because of it knowing that the…

Child Abuse : An Unforgivable Crime

Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing…

SAD… More Than The Winter Blues

Drizzly rain, dark clouds and that nip in the air. It is late summer/early fall in northern Europe. One could think that we are hurtling towards winter like a freight train. With the annual moving of the clocks only weeks away, the shorter days are upon us. Realistically there is a good chance that the…

What Your Therapist Must Be Doing!

Many people who turn to therapists for recovery have a stereotyped imagination of what they can expect from the experience. Many have the image of a Freudian like character sitting in a leather chair, saying nothing and occasionally coming out with some masterpiece of intellect that brings realisation. While it can be said that this…

Our Happiness Is Determined By The Choices WE Make!

I always remember the quote ” Life is about the choices you make. If you want a better life, make different choices”.  This very true quote is often lost on people who blame their circumstances, upbringing or insecurity for not making a decision that could change their lives. This comes to mind when I see the…

False Memory Syndrome Wickedly Being Used As a Defense in Abuse Cases.

When a child is sexually abused, it is done within the context of a manipulation of love and trust. For an abuser to achieve his or her goal of sexual gratification, the victim is persuaded to look on the act as “normal” interaction. Even worse, they are then sworn to silence through threats of violence or…

Codependency : Steps to Recovery in Therapy

The term “Steps to Recovery” is perhaps a bit misleading. There are no guarantees in the process and a lot of things must come together at once. At the heart of this process is a willingness to work on oneself and to accept that co-dependency is an issue in relationships. This means accepting responsibility for…