The Abused Inner Child

The powerful experience that is inner child therapy often opens doors that have been closed for many years. This process brings understanding of what was, bringing clarity to what is and can be. Being in contact with our inner child who has been abused is especially hard due mainly to the coping mechanisms and survival…

Loving your Inner Child

Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience. Our inner child is the full complement of childhood feelings, needs and memories. It is very helpful to picture…

Learning from our Parent’s mistakes

There is a fine line between good and bad parenting styles but one thing is for sure..get it wrong and your child will suffer in adulthood! The difficult thing is to work out what is the best style and how to consistently apply it. Not an easy job under the best of circumstances and we mostly…

Once Damaged, Always Damaged ?

It is a widely held view that abused children are likely to move the abuse onto the next generation by abusing their own offspring in some way. The term “once damaged goods, always damaged goods” is a widely held belief in society and abusers are expected to repeat learnt patterns. Abuse survivors are even sometimes…

Taking therapy Online : What are the challenges?

I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject. I was flattered and accepted right away. However, it made…