When The Child Within Becomes The Parent Within

The powerful experience that is inner child therapy often opens doors that have been closed for many years. This process brings understanding of what was, bringing clarity to what is and can be. Being in contact with our inner child who has been abused is especially hard due mainly to the coping mechanisms and survival…

Mental Health Still Carries a Stigma

When I was young, my family would often travel to a nearby town to visit family friends. As a child, it was not my favorite pastime and I often felt forced to play with the kids in the family which at that age was a chore. However, the father of the family was the big…

Narcissism : The Curse Of The Chosen Child

There are many articles around on the internet about all types of narcissism and the dangers of being in a relationship with someone who has these tendencies. The advice is clear : get away from the situation as quickly as possible. Anyone who is more on the codependent side of the continuum will testify that…

Real Change starts with you.

At this time of year, newspapers, magazines and social media are filled with ways we need to change to become successful in the coming year. A new waistline, cutting out that habit that annoys our partner, reducing alcohol or tobacco intake are all on the agenda. Most of the reactive solutions that people come up…

Why Parents Must Let Go

The messages we get from our parents as we grow up determine the way we see the world as an adult. If all things go well, we grow up to be independent with a secure attachment to the family base. However, when dysfunction happens, we become locked in a cycle of codependency that ties us…