An Added Complication? Relationships in the social media age

Back in the day before widespread use of social media and technology, relationships might have been much easier to conduct. People met in a more traditional way and got to know each other in ways that are slowly dying out today.Writing letters (on paper), phone calls and arranging the next meeting were the extent of…

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Our Quest for Happily Ever After. Now Available on Amazon Kindle : BUY HERE Relationships often fail because we forget the fundamentals of human interaction. We forget to listen, we forget to communicate what we are feeling or thinking. We make assumptions without having real evidence in front of us. We blame our conditioning, our…

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Relationships are the most frustrating, complicated “joint venture” we can ever become involved in. Yet, they are the most rewarding and intriguing experience we can ever have if we get it right with the right person. Building a relationship on the four pillars of trust, honesty, respect, and mutual benefit will virtually guarantee success Find…

Codependency is not Love

We confuse codependency with love. We are taught that we are supposed to give all to the “chosen” one. One or two of my clients have said to me that it is better to be codependent that the alternative. Yes, it is the lesser of two evils but codependency is about insecurity and control..yes, control.

A Therapist must have Boundaries

Just where are the boundaries between therapist and client? What can you expect your therapist to divulge about himself and his view on the world? This is often one of the confusing aspects of therapy for many clients.   Irvin Yalom has been an advocate of having a less rigid approach to therapy in certain cases,…

Blame The Parents? Not Far Wrong

There is an old assumption that whatever you tell a therapist, he or she will always “blame the parents”. Most self-help and psychology works on conditioning and change point primarily to the time when our caregivers had the most influence over us. This is not often seen as positive and is usually cited as the…

Online Therapy & Training Can Reduce Risk of Depression

What if you could prevent clinical depression from taking hold before it’s ever even diagnosed? That’s the promise shown by an innovative European study that included a six-week online therapy and training course and support from a personal health care coach. The new research shows that participants in the online course reduced the risk of…

Free From Codependency : A New Blog

HERE   https://freefromcodependency.wordpress.com/ A formal definition of codependency has escaped psychology as a field for some time. It was originally a term proposed to describe the behavioral traits of partners of the chemically dependent (addicts). To date, there are no official, defined medical diagnostic criteria for the phenomenon we call “codependency”. It has come to mean,…

Codependency: Try A Visit to your Inner World

When I sometimes take the time to analyse my patients at any given point, there are always many codependents among them. This might be because I have had my own issues with this and like to work with them or it might just be an indication of the size of the issue. Contrary to people…