How We Sabotage Our Ability To Get Things Done….

I have written quite a lot lately about reaching a point where change is possible, moving forward is possible and it just takes that step or choice to make it happen. This is where many people get stuck in the hamster wheel of over analysis and procrastination. The “Manager” protector is usually very strong here.…

Only Definitive Action Can Move You Forward.

As humans, we are used to making excuses, taking the easy way out and procrastinating things we know need doing. With so much technology available these days at our fingertips, we can always find a way to distract ourselves from the main thing. It is part of our make-up and is hard to shrug off,…

What Our Protector Voices Tell Us….The Bad News Is…We Believe Them!

When we allow our thinking patterns to “protect” us , we often feel there is no escape, no matter how hard we try. ¬†These thinking traps are exactly that, thinking and behavior that are ingrained and seemingly impossible to shift. They subdue the Self and the true fears that we need to face. They “protect”…

Codependents: Focus on Your Self Care Before Caring For Others!

It always fascinates me when I fly anywhere and the flight personnel go through the safety checks. When they get to the oxygen mask, they always point out that you should always fit your own mask before helping anyone else. Most codependents might see this a different way but the advice is the correct one…

Codependents In The Midst Of Corporate Narcissism

Something you may not know about my career is that I used to work a lot with corporate clients, especially banks and financial institutions. I would be called in to help managers, key employees and eventually board members deal with stress and burnout. Much of what I saw in the corporate world horrified me in…

Promote The Self But Thank The Protectors

As part of the 7 Day Challenge, I wrote about polarized thinking¬†and how the battle for control of the various “parts” of our personality can lead us to such extremes as being stuck, procrastination, people pleasing and addiction. The antidote to these “protectors” is the promotion of the “Self”, the logical, reasonable, calm adult voice…

The 7 Day Challenge: A Summary

The 7 Day Challenge is over. If I look at the mails and responses I have had, many people followed it at least part way through. Not surprisingly, the most popular days were 2 and 4 that examined reasons why people find it difficult to move forward and the reasons why. In my experience of…