Procrastination : Like Treading Water!

We all do it. We convince ourselves that filing our tax return or planning that career move can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month. We bury our heads in the sand waiting for the right time, knowing that the right time is usually right now. We beat ourselves up because of it knowing that the…

How important are parents really? Two opposing views

Opinion 1. Peer Group and Teachers are more important. The role of parents in a child’s development has long been seen as crucial. Great minds like Freud and Peck, among many others have highlighted generations of parents’ inadequacies and the effect this has on the subsequent adult. This idea is borne out every day in my practice where…

Does abuse define a career path?

One of the enduring questions of human development and behaviour is why we take the paths that we do. What influences us in our choice of partner, profession, lifestyle and other things that make us who we are? This is a deep and complicated question even if a “good enough” upbringing has been experienced but…

The role of False Memory in Abuse Denial

When a child is sexually abused, it is done within the context of a manipulation of love and trust. For an abuser to achieve his or her goal of sexual gratification, the victim is persuaded to look on the act as “normal” interaction. Even worse, they are then sworn to silence through threats of violence or…

Thinking about Death

Death has been on my mind a lot recently and it has made me think. I have what some may class as a close relationship with the subject because I have been there and done that. In 2005, while suffering from a brain infection, I collapsed in a doctor’s waiting room. I can still remember…

Online therapy : What do clients think?

The online side of my business is becoming bigger than I ever expected. Despite the challenges of working across time zones and cultures, it has been a rewarding experience so far. Many people reading this will have heard of online therapy but might find it hard to imagine how it works. What better than to hear…