Does abuse define a career path?

One of the enduring questions of human development and behaviour is why we take the paths that we do. What influences us in our choice of partner, profession, lifestyle and other things that make us who we are? This is a deep and complicated question even if a “good enough” upbringing has been experienced but…

Re-parenting your Inner Child

We have seen clearly in my previous set of posts how an inner critic is formed from the defense mechanisms used by the wounded, criticised child and how these can be taken forward into adulthood. Part of the process of dealing with the inner critic and the chaos it causes is to re-parent our inner child, showing…

Your True Self will help with the Inner Critic.

There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them. While this can be useful, we have to remember that by isolating the critic and pushing it away, we are maybe losing an ideal opportunity to work…

The Inner Critic comes in all forms

“I am really driven, but my drive doesn’t affect the conversations I have in my head about life, and my worries and fears and insecurities.” Zach Braff . Following on from my last post about the early influences we experience that can form the inner critic . The concept of an inner critic is well known but most…

Depression Research Update

Feeling down from time to time is a normal part of life. But when emptiness and despair take hold and won’t go away, it may be depression. More than just the temporary “blues,” the lows of depression make it tough to function and enjoy life as you once did. Hobbies and friends don’t interest you like they used…

How I cope with depression.

Originally posted on kenkennardblog:
I have suffered from depression since I was a teenager.  I am now 61.  I did not know I “had” depression until I had a breakdown when I was 50 and was admitted to a psychiatric clinic.  Even then, I remonstrated with the consultant psychiatrist.  How could I, a man who…

Accepting Failure and Learning from it

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat.  It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only  by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. Failure is something we all must come to terms with. Businesses and relationships fail to make it, targets are…