Suicide: A Personal Story

“Did you really want to die?” “No one commits suicide because they want to die.” “Then why do they do it?” “Because they want to stop the pain.” Tiffanie DeBartolo…How to kill a Rock Star As a psychologist, I have been involved with patients who have, at some time in their lives, thought seriously about…

On Being A Father…

Being on holiday, I have had some exclusive time with my near two year old, Ryan. With my wife being away on a seminar, we have spent two quality days together. This is very important to me and one can see that it is important for him too. It is also a far cry from…

Narcissism and Codependency : The Love Addiction

Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr. They are the codependents who keep on…

Positive discipline is not Punishment

The first weeks of a baby’s life can be grueling and tiring for the new parents. Some parents can be completely overwhelmed with this new life that is suddenly thrust upon them. During these early phases, mistakes can be made that can have an effect in the years to come.  Experts often cite the first…

How Positive Discipline can promote Autonomy in young Children

As children grow older, they like to explore and push boundaries. What they are looking for is a sense of autonomy and self-confidence, an important cog in the wheel of development. The way parents handle this is crucial for the child’s development. When children are not allowed to explore in a child proof home or are punished and…

Online Therapy : A new World

Online therapy is relatively new and not yet fully accepted by everyone. When you browse articles on this topic, you generally find that the main issues center around privacy concerns, proposed regulation and the usual chatter from psychotherapists stuck in the Freudian era. However, there are some studies, the most recent in Australia, stating that…

How a child can help an adult..

I have been doing Inner Child and Inner Family Systems Therapy for a number of years. It never ceases to amaze me what a powerful force it can be when a client truly reconnects with a part of themselves that has been locked away and abandoned for years. They then realize that their paradigm is…