Most people are emotionally dishonest for various reasons. A bold statement, maybe but in my experience it is a true statement. Look at this quote: “Most of us feel that others will not tolerate emotional honesty. We would rather defend our dishonesty on the grounds that it might hurt others; and having rationalised our phoniness into…
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There will be many people who come across this post who are stuck. Stuck in life generally but specifically in relationships that are abusive, dysfunctional and with people who care very little about them. They will complain, sometimes medicate themselves, often seek therapy but the…
This well worn cliché, I have heard many times in many different circumstances. The idea that the concept of love and only love, will help couples overcome any difficulties they have is at best irrational and at worst, a misleading lie sold to us by society, religion and maybe the advertising industry. It also very…
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The ideal woman for many men comes straight out of a codependent checklist. Many women are taught from an early age that they haave to be a certain “way” around men. I have often dealt with women who are involved with abusive, emotionally distant men…
When I practice Inner Child Therapy with clients, we invariably meet the Inner Critic at some stage. This can often be identified because of the “should” statements that are associated with its advice. When I look at my client base, I notice that I have a range of different personalities, issues and outlooks on life…
In my daily work as a therapist, I deal with couples who are struggling to keep their relationship together. There are many reasons for this and some are more successful than others at working on the issues that divide them. I have found that it really does not matter what the issue is, if the…
Recovering from codependency can be tough. All that sacrificing and giving is hard to cope with when there is no place to put it. Following my 10 Step Framework will put you on the path to recovery. Learn to become aware of where your codependency came from and then what to do about it.
Originally posted on Free From Codependency With Dr. Nicholas Jenner:
Let’s remind ourselves of the general characteristics of being codependent. As a “recovered” codependent, I recognise most of these. My own experience of being codependent has helped me to truly help others. I understand what it means to be codependent and the negative effects it…
Listen to how narcissists create a web of illusion to hook their victims. Learn about the stages of a narcissist relationship and why codependents find themselves so often the target.
Originally posted on Free From Codependency With Dr. Nicholas Jenner:
As humans, we have a never-ending ability to see the good in others. We forgive, we forget, we give the benefit of the doubt. Admirable as these qualities are, it might sometimes leave us with a lack of objectivity. The objectivity we need to make…
