Humans are the most interesting of species. We have the ability to determine our future, analyze the past, and make conscious decisions based on sensory input. The study of human behavior is wide and extensive. That said, when we interact with other human beings in a romantic sense, we often get it wrong and sometimes very wrong. We often repeat the same mistakes over and over again and we seem powerless to learn from them. Yet occasionally we get it very right and we form a connection with another human being that can potentially last a lifetime. Why we click with one and not another is one of the great mysteries of life and one that is not easily answered.
As a therapist of many years of experience, I have been involved with many couples who have been in crisis, trying desperately to hold on to what was. Trying to hard to come to terms with the inevitable changes that take place in the individuals and the relationship. Sometimes, it is too late for some of them, but every so often, couples can be brought back from the brink by looking at themselves and the way they interact. . Often it is a case of reminding them of the fundamentals, sometimes teaching them something new. Sadly, sometimes it is about preparing them for separation and moving on.
This book looks closely at such issues and more. It is a subject that has deeply fascinated me.
I always that there was a book in me somewhere. I didn’t realize that due to my many blog posts, it was already written. This was pointed at to me one day by the person who was waiting at the end of my own broken road, my dear wife Inass.
Even though much of the book is based on my work, there is a large dose of personal experience mixed in. If this book can help just one couple to get back on track, I will deem it a success. Such is my hope in writing it.