Dealing with major change

Transition and change are a part of life and the human experience, come in many forms and can be sudden or gradually evolving, stressful, pleasurable, or a mixture of both! We change our relationships, jobs, where we live, sometimes our values and beliefs, our goals in life; as well as changes in health. With transition and change comes some type of adjustment, roles and responsibilities can change with changing life circumstances. The more organic transitions in life are obvious, the cycle from birth to death. In fact all of life is made up of ‘little deaths’. As we transition through life we let go of childhood for adolescence, through to our old age.

There are many positive aspects to change, these include:
  • new experiences and opportunities
  • stimulation for new ideas and ways of thinking
  • new strengths such as more self confidence
  • change helps you to prioritize and problem solve
There can be many different emotions and feelings associated with change and transition depending on life experience, situation and circumstances. Some of these might be: fear of the unknown, stress and/or anxiety, depression or anger. Often we find it hard to associate these feelings with the change such is the impact on us but many people experience typical symptoms associated with these feelings or emotions such as:
  • tiredness or lack of sleep
  • lack of concentration
  • feeling pessimistic
  • feeling overwhelmed

The feeling of being overwhelmed is something very common to change as we transition through from one phase in our life to another. It is also a dangerous phase if not handled correctly as new experiences take over. Especially when the change is sudden or forced upon us, the world can seem a very different place as everything we knew and took for granted appears to be diminishing before our eyes. There are a few simple steps that can help to reduce the impact of transition. What has worked for us is to find solace in the power of our little family and our attitude that we can do this together for an eventual better life but the items listed below could help:

  • stay flexible. Keeping to a rigid routine during change will likely bring disappointment.
  • care for your physical and emotional health
  • maintain your life flow by keeping some kind of ‘routine’
  • stay in touch with friends and social networks
  • use stress reduction techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, breathing exercises
  • start a wish list of new plans and goals to fit your new circumstances
  • embrace the new changes
  • take it one step at a time. This is very important. Smaller goals can seem less overwhelming.
  • keep your sense of humour
  • talk to helpful people, such as a counsellor or someone you can trust

We cannot avoid change, it is a necessary part of our lives and helps build resilience physically, emotionally, socially and spiritually. Even though change at times can be painful and difficult we can usually find something positive from the experience if we look for it.

Dr. Nicholas Jenner is a Counseling psychologist in private practice working with individuals,couples,  groups and companies globally. Online therapy is, in his experience, effective for treating a number of major conditions. Are you having issues that you need to talk through? He has a range of plans that can help you get the help you need.  Online Therapy details : Here ……

  6 comments for “Dealing with major change

  1. December 28, 2013 at 6:12 am

    Hope you feel at home soon. We took on a big move/ renovation project when my daughter was 2, one of the impacts I had not foreseen was our relationship. we became late night decorating partners which isn’t great for romance, worth trying to keep some romance alive, we got through it of course my Daughter is now 15 but it was a tough time that’s for sure.
    Sadly at the end of the project my husband was made redundant and it was all change again but that’s another story 🙂

  2. December 28, 2013 at 8:14 am

    One of the strategies I see people using a lot is the idea that there is always someone worse off. I recently re-read the Diary of Anne Frank and even she did that. Even though she has shut away in hiding, she felt she was lucky becausshe wasn’t out there on the street being captured by the Nazis. She also worked towards the future by continuing her studies while in hiding. She offers and very good example of how to get through tough times.

  3. January 5, 2014 at 9:10 pm

    Reblogged this on THE CENTER FOR WELL BEING.

  4. January 11, 2014 at 12:53 pm

    A great post! As you noted, change is inevitable and working towards a positive outcome is essential! The current changes I’m going through with the death of my partner of many years has involved adaptation to a variety of new circumstances. I know that you and your family will evolve your new project into a wonderful home. And your little guy will add his love and good humour to ease your transition! 🙂

    • January 12, 2014 at 2:31 am

      Thanks Gloria….and that offer is always open!!

      • January 12, 2014 at 11:01 am

        Thanks again – I’m planning on it! 🙂

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