Category: THERAPY

“He Is Like A Drug” Codependency: Truly An Addiction?

Originally posted on Codependency Is Not Love With Dr. Nicholas Jenner:
Can we really place Codependency in the same category as drug and alcohol addiction? Does it really compare in any sense to the misery of substance abuse, gambling or shopping addiction? Codependency has been called the “love addiction” and anyone who is “enmeshed” with…

As A Codependent, Boundaries Are Essential And Need To Be Maintained

I deal with many co-dependent people on a daily basis and one factor that is extremely common is the inability to set healthy boundaries. Codependent people experience emotional abuse in relationships because they are basically not able to form firm boundaries and allow others to take down those that they have. They are not usually…

How The Domestic Abuse I Witnessed As A Child Consolidated My Views On Men And Women

A testimony from a survivor of domestic abuse: I come from an abusive background where not only the children in the family but also my mother were frequently beaten by my drunken stepfather.  To the outside, we were a dysfunctional family but not a violent one. This image was carefully managed by my parents. This…

When Codependents Get Nasty And Resistant To Therapy

It is wrong to assume that if codependency is identified as an issue, the person concerned is codependent with everyone in his or her life. There is usually only one or a number of people (or thing, e.g work, substances) but the typical behavior associated with codependents does not necessarily get projected on everybody. The…

A Gift From Your Parents: The Inner Critic

Life sometimes tells us that we are not deserving. We go through long periods of believing that there is something inherently wrong with us. One of the major factors in this process is the formation of an inner critic which is a major underlying cause of depression and low self-esteem.  The inner critic is often…

Face It! Increasing Self Esteem Is A Choice And Can Be Done Like This!

Consider this famous quote below: “The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.…

How Your Workload Could Burn You Out Emotionally And Physically

Burnout is a problem that many people either face or come very close to facing at some point in their life or career and the numbers are rising. According to the American Psychological Association : three-quarters of Americans experience symptoms related to stress in a given month: – 77% experience physical symptoms – 73% experience psychological symptoms.…

Now In Paperback: Our Quest For Happily Ever After.

Humans are the most interesting of species. We have the ability to determine our future, analyse the past, and make conscious decisions based on sensory input and the study of human behavior is wide and extensive. That said, when we interact with other human beings in a romantic sense, we often get it wrong and…

Defensive Pessimism And How It Can Help You Move Forward

Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ? Sounds crazy and not too healthy but there are times when this kind of thinking can certainly be justified. Name any self-help book found on the shelves of any bookshop…

As A Codependent, I Was Horrible But I Am Now Using That Experience To Help Others

Originally posted on Codependency Is Not Love With Dr. Nicholas Jenner:
When I give a free initial consultation to a new client and it concerns codependency, I often get asked a very relevant question. That is…“why do you feel you understand me as a possible codependent?” According to many referrals that I get, that level…