Category: STRESS MANAGEMENT

Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be. I have written…

Increase Your Self Worth, Step 2: Self Acceptance

Self acceptance is the root of mental health and self-esteem. It is seen universally as a key element in personal happiness, personal growth and a healthy view of the world and ourselves. Simply put, it is the acceptance of ourselves, the way we are. True self acceptance comes from accepting the things we like about…

Dealing with Codependency In Therapy

At the heart of this process is a willingness to work on oneself and to accept that co-dependency is an issue in relationships. This means accepting responsibility for change and not passing that responsibility (or blame) onto others. It takes courage to look at and assess early life experiences and learn new skills that will help deal with early…

How We Sabotage Our Ability To Get Things Done….

I have written quite a lot lately about reaching a point where change is possible, moving forward is possible and it just takes that step or choice to make it happen. This is where many people get stuck in the hamster wheel of over analysis and procrastination. The “Manager” protector is usually very strong here.…

What Our Protector Voices Tell Us….The Bad News Is…We Believe Them!

When we allow our thinking patterns to “protect” us , we often feel there is no escape, no matter how hard we try.  These thinking traps are exactly that, thinking and behavior that are ingrained and seemingly impossible to shift. They subdue the Self and the true fears that we need to face. They “protect”…

Codependents In The Midst Of Corporate Narcissism

Something you may not know about my career is that I used to work a lot with corporate clients, especially banks and financial institutions. I would be called in to help managers, key employees and eventually board members deal with stress and burnout. Much of what I saw in the corporate world horrified me in…

The 7 Day Challenge: A Summary

The 7 Day Challenge is over. If I look at the mails and responses I have had, many people followed it at least part way through. Not surprisingly, the most popular days were 2 and 4 that examined reasons why people find it difficult to move forward and the reasons why. In my experience of…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 7: Take Action And Take It Now!

  We are at the pinnacle of the 7 Day Challenge, the last day. We have slowly worked through various topics and have finally reached the moment to take action to make a change….scary, right? For some of you who have followed the challenge over the past six days, you have probably been at this…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 6: Test Your Commitment

If you have been following the 7 Day Challenge, you might well now have reached the point where you have identified an issue, tested your resistance, looked at possible solutions and looked at your thinking around this and tried to beat your demons. Today, I am asking you to commit to changing that issue before…

The 7 Day Challenge Day 5: The Strategy, First Beat Polarized Thinking

The 7 Day Challenge is well under way. So far we have covered Day 1 Check, Day 2 Challenge, Day 3 Visualise, and Day 4 Demons.  Yesterday’s post on polarized thinking certainly touched a nerve with many people if the comments and emails I received are anything to go by. As I have mentioned before,…