Category: PARENTING

The Importance of Newborn Bonding

One of my recent posts looked at the impact of our beginnings and how the environment we grow up in largely determines how we see the world and, if not changed, how we see the world as an adult. In my work as a therapist it is often very easy to draw a direct link…

How Our Own Memories Affect Our Ability To Parent.

We all have unresolved issues from our past, some conscious and some that we are not fully aware of. These issues, if not dealt with can have a huge effect on our relationships with others and especially with our own children. Subsequently, this moves the issue from one generation to the next. There are many…

Smack your child ? You are an Abuser

Do you smack your children? If so, you could soon be punished by law if lobbyists in EU have their way. (READ MORE). Let me pitch in. There is no excuse in this world that can justify assaulting a child in the name of discipline! Whatever the circumstances. I have three children and I have…

My E-Book Available on Amazon Kindle

Years in the making, this book looks at our expectations of romantic interaction. Learn how to understand your relationship, what can go wrong and more importantly what you can do to put it right. Reach for the ideal in your relationship. Relationships often fail because we forget the fundamentals of human interaction. We forget to listen,…

My New EBook Available Now.

Relationships are the most frustrating, complicated “joint venture” we can ever become involved in. Yet, they are the most rewarding and intriguing experience we can ever have if we get it right with the right person. Building a relationship on the four pillars of trust, honesty, respect, and mutual benefit will virtually guarantee success Find…

Blame The Parents? Not Far Wrong

There is an old assumption that whatever you tell a therapist, he or she will always “blame the parents”. Most self-help and psychology works on conditioning and change point primarily to the time when our caregivers had the most influence over us. This is not often seen as positive and is usually cited as the…

How Often do the Sexually Abused become Abuser?

As a therapist, there is often a big elephant in the room in sessions that only comes out eventually and normally only when trust has been established. This is the subject of clients being sexually abused by family members. They often have clouded memories of the event but the effects have stayed with them into…

A Father is Important: Let’s Not Forget that!

With the divorce rate at an all time high, there are many children who are living their lives between two homes. While this can be fun for the child if handled the right way, there are many children who are left confused and feeling guilt and shame as their parents fight it out. The concept…