Category: PARENTING

The Best Advice Of The Week

At the moment, I am ploughing through the latest offering from Jordan Peterson, 12 Rules For Life…An Antidote To Chaos. I say ploughing because it is somewhat heavy going with its frequent references and links to religion and the bible as a reference. These, of course are much more relevant if you believe those events…

Stay Or Go: Its A Choice And Every Choice Has A Consequence

There will be many people who have started the year with the thought that they need to change their relationship status from attached to unattached. Those same people might also have had that thought last year and the year before and maybe even the year before that. The daily grind of ineffective communication, sweating the…

Work On Things That Really Matter To Instigate Change.

One of the biggest difficulties we face when trying to instigate change in our lives is protecting ourselves from the effects of the past and an imagined future. Even when the past has been somewhat dealt with, the brave new world known as our new future life can be difficult to deal with, hold many fears and lead us…

Dealing With Life’s Small (And Not So Small) Setbacks

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat.  It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only  by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. Failure (or the perception of failure) is something we all must come to terms with. Businesses and relationships fail…

Parents Matter Much More Than Some Think!

The role of parents in a child’s development has long been seen as crucial. Great minds like Freud and Peck, among many others have highlighted generations of parents’ inadequacies and the effect this has on the subsequent adult. This idea is borne out every day in my practice where clients seem to be held to the past by…

Living With Depression All Day, Every Day

It is an overwhelming fact that depression rates are on the rise in most corners of the globe. Globally, millions of people are living with the misery of the so-called “cancer of mental health” on a daily basis. Some have had their symptoms alleviated by medication, some have sought therapy and there are many others…

A Thought For 2018: Live With The Choices You Make

I recently had a deep and rather philosophical conversation with a client concerning how much we can truly exercise free will in our lives. Him, going through a difficult period in his life, preferred to believe that we have limited free will and most things that happen to us were predetermined in some shape or…

What Do I See When I Look At You? The Anatomy Of A Relationship

In the time I have known you, we have had one adventure after the other.  Some planned, some forced. Due to the very nature of who we are, everything is more complicated and needs much more time to be brought to a conclusion. Bringing together two different nationalities, faiths and outlooks bring its problems. We…

Positive Discipline: Giving Your Child A Sense Of Autonomy

As children grow older, they like to explore and push boundaries. What they are looking for is a sense of autonomy and self-confidence, an important cog in the wheel of development. The way parents handle this is crucial for the child’s development. When children are not allowed to explore in a child proof home or are punished and…