Category: ONLINE THERAPY

Test Your Assumptions: Guess What? They Might Be Wrong!

We all do it. Something happens, we find ourselves in a situation where an assumption jumps up. An argument, meeting someone new, problem at work or in the home…I could make a long list. It is natural when such things occur we jump to an immediate assumption about what has just happened, what is happening…

The Importance of Newborn Bonding

One of my recent posts looked at the impact of our beginnings and how the environment we grow up in largely determines how we see the world and, if not changed, how we see the world as an adult. In my work as a therapist it is often very easy to draw a direct link…

Treat Codependency Like Any Other Addiction

A recent study in Australia stated that up to 240 million people worldwide are addicted to something. Drugs, alcohol, internet, sex, shopping, eating were all mentioned. These were just the ones that are receiving some form of help for their addiction. There are surely many stuck in denial who do not see the need for…

Fear and Anxiety : Complications of Our Modern World

Fear is with us all the time. Anyone who hates flying will tell what what it is like to board a plane. The same feeling surfaces if we stand on a tall building with a fear of heights, when we have to take a test or face a difficult situation. The fear can lead to…

Think Talking to Your Therapist Online Is A Fad?….Think Again

It is now roughly 10 years since I saw my first client online. I remember it as clear as day. Sitting in my office waiting for my two o’clock appointment, sipping on the tea I had made in the 15 minutes between appointments, I received a panicked call regarding the state of the client’s car.…

What Does Porn Addiction Do To A Relationship?

Porn has a bad reputation and is often seen as somebody’s dirty little secret. The stereotype of the typical porn viewer is a single white male who watches late at night giving the impression that people view porn alone and as a substitute for having a partner. It is seen as a solitary, anti-social secretive…

Six Things You Must Have in Your Relationship

I have written many times here {as well as telling my clients} that the basis of any relationship is trust, honesty, respect and the mutual meeting of each other’s needs. I wholeheartedly stand by that as a positive and definite statement. If a relationship doesn’t have these elements, it is generally dead in the water.…