Category: Mentoring

Podcast: Codependency No More

In 2015, I had the pleasure of taking part in a podcast that looked at how inner child therapy can help with codependency. The podcast was recieved favourably by many people and now I am offering you the chance to hear it again: Listen to the podcast Here Below is the introduction to the podcast…

I Advocate Therapy With Action And Togetherness: PsychEngagement®

People want results for money spent in all areas of their lives. None more so than if they are paying privately for therapy. Every minute of the session is being paid for and that puts responsibility on both the therapist and the client to make it worthwhile. Today, I am going to introduce PsychEngagement┬«, a…

Codependents And Alcoholics: Keeping The Addiction Cycle Turning

There is much written on the internet (including by me) about the “new codependency”, the “love addiction”, documenting poor souls trapped in relationships with “narcissist”, emotionally distant partners. In therapy, we quite rightly talk about how to fix the broken childhood of neglect and abuse that created the situation in the first place. We always…

Codependency: From Co To Counter

Due to their lack of self-esteem and the inability to self-care, codependents become enmeshed with others easily. They work on the idea that all the while they are like this, they do not have to face their own acute issues. They seek their validation from outside and react badly when this is not forthcoming in…

Relationships: Counter-dependence Or Interdependence?

In my last post, I wrote about the characteristics of counter-dependency and how this is defined by projection of a “strong” personality that hides the fear of true intimacy and commitment. Many people who identify as counter-dependent see themselves as exhibiting healthy autonomy and this is often the impression they give to others. However, there…

Fear Getting Close To Anyone? You Could Be Counter-dependent

The media and TV often celebrate people who are “strong”. Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition, determination and healthy autonomy. The traits mentioned here are positive but could it be that something lurks under the surface that could be less than…

How Codependency Can Make You Sick

I believe firmly that it is only a matter of time before codependency becomes a recognised disorder. As discussed many times by this author, I have been challenged on occasions to prove that codependency truly exists and is not just a symptom of another disorder. The many clients I have who show similar debilitating symptoms…

Combining Two Effective Therapies To Help Codependents

Codependency is a complex issue and many therapists doubt its existence. They might agree somewhat with the classic definition of codependency where an enabling partner helps an addict maintain his addiction but the idea of codependency in relationships, the love addiction, is disputed. However, codependency in relationships is something I see and work with every…

Connecting With Your Inner Child…What It Means And How To Do It

Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience. Our inner child is the full complement of childhood feelings, needs and memories. It is very helpful to picture…

Resentment: The Killer Of Relationships

In my daily work as a therapist, I deal with couples who are struggling to keep their relationship together. There are many reasons for this and some are more successful than others at working on the issues that divide them. I have found that it really does not matter what the issue is, if the…