Category: INNER CHILD THERAPY

E17 The Love Hangover: Why Codependents Get Stuck (Podcast With Dr. Nicholas Jenner)

As a codependent, it is tough to end a toxic relationship. However, many codependents falter while dealing with the aftermath and being alone. Learn how you can navigate yourself through this process.   Blogposts and videos mentioned in this podcast are available here: – (Blogpost) Codependency: getting what you truly want is scary: https://freefromcodependency.com/2017… –…

My Take On True Love

I deal with many clients who have real problems understanding how relationships work. Even with experience, they often make the same mistakes over and over again. ​ Being involved romantically with another human being is to use a famous quote “the best and worst of times”. We proclaim our love, often far too quickly, and…

Therapy For Codependency: Get Help From Your Internal Family

When I sometimes take the time to analyse my patients at any given point, there are always many codependents among them. This might be because I have had my own issues with this and like to work with them or it might just be an indication of the size of the issue. Contrary to people…

Codependency: How Therapy Works

At the heart of this process is a willingness to work on oneself and to accept that co-dependency is an issue in relationships. This means accepting responsibility for change and not passing that responsibility (or blame) onto others. It takes courage to look at and assess early life experiences and learn new skills that will help deal with early…

Codependent Love Is Not Love: Learn To Set Boundaries

These days we throw the words “narcissist” and “codependent” around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centered as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter. Despite the fact that we can easily recognise these traits in people, it is always dangerous to label people…

How Early Attachments Make A Difference To Our Relationships

We can look very closely at the past for a clue as to why things often go wrong in adult relationships. The early attachments (or not) that we make with our primary caregivers set the tone for behavior and conditioning in adulthood. These attachments, whether secure or insecure go way back to our very early…

Why We Say “I Love You” And Its True Meaning

I love you… Just words, often misused, often overstated, often said without conviction but when these three little words are missing, it can have a devastating effect on a couple and their relationship. How easy it is to take for granted that your partner somehow knows that you love them without you actually saying it,…

6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up 4 to 6

Continuing my post on moving on from a bad breakup, let`s look at steps 4 to 6: 4. Watch that Rebound! There are those people who seem to jump from one dysfunctional relationship and straight into another. There are differing opinions about rebound relationships and what role they play in recovery. It has been suggested…

6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up…. 1 to 3

Anyone who has been through a break-up will testify to the feelings that surround it. Let’s face it, no-one likes being left and in reality, also ending a relationship is not easy. Invariably, we all generally get it wrong. Whether you ended the relationship or were on the receiving end, feelings can run high and…

Is Your Ex Complicating Your New Relationship?

During couples therapy, many reasons for a lack of harmony come out. Infidelity, lack of communication skills, losing interest in the relationship amongst others, are commonly cited as troublesome for one or both people. All are very valid reasons for seeking help. However, one complicating factor that is sometimes present is the presence of an…