Category: HAPPINESS

An Added Complication? Relationships in the social media age

Back in the day before widespread use of social media and technology, relationships might have been much easier to conduct. People met in a more traditional way and got to know each other in ways that are slowly dying out today.Writing letters (on paper), phone calls and arranging the next meeting were the extent of…

Why live in Fear?

A few years ago, I realised that I had lived most of my life in fear. Let’s qualify that. I was not scared for my well-being or that I would be attacked(directly)but fear of how others saw me, how I saw myself. This fear drove me to behave and interact in a way that guaranteed…

To that Special Someone on Valentines Day

Sometimes you have to wait a long time to meet the person you wish you had met years ago. However, some things are really worth the wait and are all the better for the experience of getting to that point. To the special, special lady in my life….the one who was there for me in…

How CBT can help with Maladaptive Thinking

I can’t quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went ” You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you”. As time marches on, this gem becomes more and more relevant but…

Do we need Money to make us Happy?

Scott peck famously said that : “Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once…

One Evening in March….

There are  defining moments in life. Moments that change your life and have a lasting effect. We often don’t realise at the time these moments come along and sometimes they fall on you with the same effect as Newton’s apple. The fruit fell from the tree for me on a spring day in March. More precisely,…

Choosing To Be Happy

There are many things that determine our lives for better or worse. Parents play a huge role of course, our environment, influences, relationships and peers also play a part . Out of this melting pot comes a mixture that either leaves us happy, depressed, seeking constant perfectionism or leading an unfulfilled life doing things that we…

Real Change starts with you.

At this time of year, newspapers, magazines and social media are filled with ways we need to change to become successful in the coming year. A new waistline, cutting out that habit that annoys our partner, reducing alcohol or tobacco intake are all on the agenda. Most of the reactive solutions that people come up…

Know More About How Stress Affects Your Body and Mind

In recent years, there has been a massive increase in mental health issues across all genders, age groups and cultures. This is a problem that will increase and will probably get worse before it gets better. Many people go through life accepting their problems, seeing them as “normal” or as a an inevitable consequence of their job,…

The Mental Torment of Sexually Abused Children

TRIGGER WARNING : If you are uncomfortable reading about sexual abuse, please do not read further. It is estimated that up to fifty percent of sexual abuse victims who receive medical treatment after episodes of abuse carry no physical scars at all. However, it is also estimated that all of them will carry the mental scars…