Category: HAPPINESS

Emotional Traffic And Self-Talk? Take Leadership!

We all experience self-talk to varying degrees. Some of it can be positive but mostly it berates us, make us feel guilty, angry, can encourage us to slip into addiction or procrastination and can certainly overwhelm us if not checked. Most people who describe how it affects them also describe how it keeps them stuck…

Codependency: The Impact Of Our Beginnings

Think about the following situations and the resulting behaviour : A text message from your partner’s former lover sends you into a spiral of rage, insecurity and self-doubt. They reassure you but you are convinced they are cheating. You want to change your job but fail to apply for a new one because you are convinced…

Choice Not Impulse Moves Codependents Forward

Anyone who is a regular reader of my work will know that I work with a lot of codependents who generally share a similar set of behaviour patterns with each other. Codependents are generally very nice people who have often been taken advantage of many times but have also been in situations where they have…

Podcast: Codependency No More

In 2015, I had the pleasure of taking part in a podcast that looked at how inner child therapy can help with codependency. The podcast was recieved favourably by many people and now I am offering you the chance to hear it again: Listen to the podcast Here Below is the introduction to the podcast…

Codependency: From Co To Counter

Due to their lack of self-esteem and the inability to self-care, codependents become enmeshed with others easily. They work on the idea that all the while they are like this, they do not have to face their own acute issues. They seek their validation from outside and react badly when this is not forthcoming in…

Relationships: Counter-dependence Or Interdependence?

In my last post, I wrote about the characteristics of counter-dependency and how this is defined by projection of a “strong” personality that hides the fear of true intimacy and commitment. Many people who identify as counter-dependent see themselves as exhibiting healthy autonomy and this is often the impression they give to others. However, there…

Fear Getting Close To Anyone? You Could Be Counter-dependent

The media and TV often celebrate people who are “strong”. Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition, determination and healthy autonomy. The traits mentioned here are positive but could it be that something lurks under the surface that could be less than…