Category: COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY

Alcohol : A blight on society.

I live in a country where alcohol is seen as an essential part of any social activity. It is generally not possible to take part in any event, private or public, without masses of the stuff being consumed, leaving many people unable to care for themselves afterwards. It is a blight on society and family…

Dealing with major change

Transition and change are a part of life and the human experience, come in many forms and can be sudden or gradually evolving, stressful, pleasurable, or a mixture of both! We change our relationships, jobs, where we live, sometimes our values and beliefs, our goals in life; as well as changes in health. With transition…

Change for the better : An effective program.

An author I tend to revisit quite often is Dr Stephen Covey. I read many self-help books and some are better than others. However, Covey’s body of work is effective in its simplicity and ease to which it can be integrated into our daily lives. His best selling book, the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People…

Change for the better: The role of a Father

As I work longer with clients, it is clear that the parenting style that they were subjected to as a child is extremely important in determining how they see the world. This conditioning is often taken into adulthood and causes dysfunction in relationships and in life generally. The role both parents play is important but new research…

Making the change : You as the star of your own story!

In my earlier posts, I have looked in great detail at our thinking traps, how they affect our lives and where they may have come from. I hope it has helped some of you to recognise yourself in them. It is easy to write about what goes wrong, more difficult to put plans into operation to…

Changing for the better : The impact of our beginnings.

Think about the following situations and the resulting behavior : A text message from your partner’s former lover sends you into a spiral of rage, insecurity and self-doubt. They reassure you but you are convinced they are cheating. You want to change your job but fail to apply for a new one because you are convinced…

Depression: Recognising our thinking traps :Part 2

One of my favorite Buddha quotes is : “We are what we think”. Never was a truer word spoken.  These thinking traps are part of old patterns that lie behind our thinking, feeling and behavior and often lead to things going wrong. Hard as we then try to make things better, they often get worse and then…

Determining factors in Recovery from Rape and Sexual assault

(Rape Trigger warning) I was rather disturbed to read a recent newspaper article stating that certain sections of the police force in the UK had been encouraging rape victims to drop cases in order to keep statistics on the good side. READ.  This is horrifying and makes a mockery of the “serve and protect” stance taken…

Focus to avoid Rumination

One of the biggest difficulties we face when trying to instigate change in our lives is protecting ourselves from the effects of the past and an imagined future. Even when the past has been somewhat dealt with, the brave new world known as our new future life can be difficult to deal with, hold many fears and lead us…