Category: COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY

Reflection Versus Rumination

“It is necessary … for a man to go away by himself … to sit on a rock … and ask, ‘Who am I, where have I been, and where am I going?” ― Carl Sandburg It is that time of year when we all naturally look back at how the last year has shaped…

CBT : How Perfectionism Can Lead To Depression

Perfectionism can mean many things to many people. It can be seen as striving for excellence. It can mean a controlling attitude but more often it means holding on to unattainable standards that demand unyielding compliance from self, others and situations. This is more than just having an eye for details or suffering disappointment due to not…

The Way We See The Problem, Often Is The Problem

I always remember the quote ” Life is about the choices you make. If you want a better life, make different choices”.  This very true quote is often lost on people who blame their circumstances, upbringing or insecurity for not making a decision that could change their lives. This comes to mind when I see the…

Those “Aha” Moments Don’t Happen Without Chemistry

As a therapist, I am always happy when one of my clients has a “aha” moment. This is that very moment when everything comes together and you just know, it is going to initiate some form of positive change in the client’s disposition. I may have realised it was going to happen some time before…

PTSD: The Dramatic Effects

Post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD is one of the most misunderstood and misdiagnosed psychological conditions that exist. Often disregarded by the medical profession, treated with suspicion by health care and sometimes not even recognized by the sufferers themselves, it justifies the title given to it by David Kinchin as the “Invisible Injury”. It is,…

Conditioning Can Be Changed

A client who has been coming to therapy for quite some time, recently had a revelation where she finally realised that her family had conditioned her as a child to behave in a certain way. Intellectually, she always knew this but emotionally she could not accept it. She cried for the first time in years…

Dealing with Perfectionism: The killer Of Self-esteem

Many people who suffer from low self-esteem are driven by unhelpful thinking about the standards they have set themselves in order to feel good about themselves. If you are one of these people then you have a lot in common with most of the clients I see. A commonality is that they are usually bright and intelligent and have achieved relative…

Examining the Client/Therapist Relationship

Just where are the boundaries between therapist and client? What can you expect your therapist to divulge about himself and his view on the world? This is often one of the confusing aspects of therapy for many clients. Irvin Yalom has been an advocate of having a less rigid approach to therapy in certain cases, though…

Choosing To Be Happy

There are many things that determine our lives for better or worse. Parents play a huge role of course, our environment, influences, relationships and peers also play a part . Out of this melting pot comes a mixture that either leaves us happy, depressed, seeking constant perfectionism or leading an unfulfilled life doing things that we…

Challenging Irrational Thoughts In Therapy

Many people who turn to therapists for recovery have a stereotyped imagination of what they can expect from the experience. Many have the image of a Freudian like character sitting in a leather chair, saying nothing and occasionally coming out with some masterpiece of intellect that brings realisation. While it can be said that this…