Category: CODEPENDENCY

Codependents and Break-ups

In my experience in treating codependents that find themselves alone, I often see feelings of guilt, self-blame and an overwhelming sense of responsibility for the break-up: “I could have done more”, “What did I do wrong?” are statements and questions I often hear.

Codependency is not Love

We confuse codependency with love. We are taught that we are supposed to give all to the “chosen” one. One or two of my clients have said to me that it is better to be codependent that the alternative. Yes, it is the lesser of two evils but codependency is about insecurity and control..yes, control.

Blame The Parents? Not Far Wrong

There is an old assumption that whatever you tell a therapist, he or she will always “blame the parents”. Most self-help and psychology works on conditioning and change point primarily to the time when our caregivers had the most influence over us. This is not often seen as positive and is usually cited as the…

Free From Codependency : A New Blog

HERE   https://freefromcodependency.wordpress.com/ A formal definition of codependency has escaped psychology as a field for some time. It was originally a term proposed to describe the behavioral traits of partners of the chemically dependent (addicts). To date, there are no official, defined medical diagnostic criteria for the phenomenon we call “codependency”. It has come to mean,…

Codependency: Try A Visit to your Inner World

When I sometimes take the time to analyse my patients at any given point, there are always many codependents among them. This might be because I have had my own issues with this and like to work with them or it might just be an indication of the size of the issue. Contrary to people…

Memories of Codependency

I was a codependent. It looks strange when I see that on paper. Codependency is not a recognised disorder nor does it make you ill in a true sense but my experiences and the experiences of countless others (many of my patients too) tell me that it can be just a devastating as a clear…

Codependency Is Not Love!

These days we throw the words “narcissist” and “codependent” around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centered as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter. Despite the fact that we can easily recognise these traits in people, it is always dangerous to label people…