Month: January 2020

Logic vs Emotion: Why Codependents Often Lose This Critical Battle

There will be many people who come across this post who are stuck. Stuck in life generally but specifically in relationships that are abusive, dysfunctional and with people who care very little about them. They will complain, sometimes medicate themselves, often seek therapy but the urge to stay exactly where they are is overwhelmingly strong.…

Being Codependent Stops You Facing The Real Issues

Codependents generally have an unhealthy focus on the external. In many cases, this focus is on a specific person (usually emotionally unavailable) but it can also be on work, to take an example. Why they do this has been well documented. I wrote about the roots of codependency recently and it is commonly agreed to…

Codependency: How A Parent Can Make The Difference

There are all types of parents and all types of parenting styles. Parents normally parent how they were parented themselves, good or bad. Where else would they get the knowledge they need? It is their first point of reference and this is sometimes why the same issues run through generations of the same family. I…

Codependency: Setting Healthy Boundaries

I deal with many co-dependent people on a daily basis and one factor that is extremely common is the inability to set healthy boundaries. Codependent people experience emotional abuse in relationships because they are basically not able to form firm boundaries and allow others to take down those that they have. They are not usually…

Mistakes Are Part Of The Human Experience… They Are A Valuable Learning Tool

Many people have written about the human condition because it fascinates people. It is fascinating and it changes as time goes on. Carl Rogers, as part of his people-centered therapeutic approach truly believed that all humans have the inherent need, ability and desire to improve themselves and become better people. Stephen Covey, in his groundbreaking…