Month: July 2018

Women And Codependency

The ideal woman for many men comes straight out of a codependent checklist. Many women are taught from an early age that they have to be a certain “way” around men. I have often dealt with women who are involved with abusive, emotionally distant men and cannot see that this is not functional for them.…

Thinking Of Yourself Is Not Narcissism. Your Needs Are Important And It Starts With You

There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you. This is the fundamental line that many find difficult to navigate and feel guilt and shame when they try to think of themselves. Consequently, many people spend their life making sure everyone else is…

Why Stay When You Know You Have To Leave?

There are times in our lives when big decisions have to be made and the consequences faced, however grim they  may be. How many of us can actually say we enjoy this process? Not many, I guess. However, doing this is part of life and the alternative is probably worse. As humans, we have become…

The Power Of Nature Can Bring Everything Into Perspective.

I recently watched a documentary on the Vietnam War. I vividly remember the images on black and white TV in the Sixties when it was happening. A pointless war where thousands died and the effects are still being felt today on both sides. One thing the documentary taught me was that wars are started by…

Emotional Honesty: What It Is And Why It Is Important

Most people are emotionally dishonest for various reasons. A bold statement, maybe but in my experience it is a true statement. Look at this quote: “Most of us feel that others will not tolerate emotional honesty. We would rather defend our dishonesty on the grounds that it might hurt others; and having rationalised our phoniness into…

Scandal: Opioid lawsuit targets rich family behind drug that fueled US crisis

Purdue Pharma is already defending lawsuits from several states and local governments, but Massachusetts is the first state to take the unusual step of personally naming the company’s executives in a complaint, the state attorney general, Maura Healey, said. It names 16 current and former executives and board members, including the chief executive, Craig Landau,…

Study shows psychological, interpersonal effects of antidepressants have reached bizarre levels

Many advocate strongly a more holistic approach to mental health care. In this scenario, all of the resources available are considered in a multi-faceted game plan that best suits the patient. As we all know, this is not currently the case and might take a quantum change in thinking for this to happen. The folly…

How Do You Know You Have The One?

While recently browsing a national UK newspaper,  I came across an article concerning a comment made by Barack Obama concerning the questions you might ask yourself about a potential partner before committing yourself to a long term relationship with them. They are as as follows: “Here’s the advice I give everyone about marriage—is she someone…

Revisit The 7 Day Challenge

Some months ago, I set a challenge. The challenge was to change something that had needed changing for quite some time. Many people followed the 7 Day process and now I am offering the chance to follow it again. Please find below a short summary and links to each day with a short description. It…