Month: February 2016

Memories of Codependency

I was a codependent. It looks strange when I see that on paper. Codependency is not a recognised disorder nor does it make you ill in a true sense but my experiences and the experiences of countless others (many of my patients too) tell me that it can be just a devastating as a clear…

To that Special Someone on Valentines Day

Sometimes you have to wait a long time to meet the person you wish you had met years ago. However, some things are really worth the wait and are all the better for the experience of getting to that point. To the special, special lady in my life….the one who was there for me in…

Why we need to reparent ourselves

We know how an inner critic is formed from the defense mechanisms used by the wounded, criticised child and how these can be taken forward into adulthood. Part of the process of dealing with the inner critic and the chaos it causes is to re-parent our inner child, showing it that it no-longer needs those mechanisms…

How CBT can help with Maladaptive Thinking

I can’t quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went ” You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you”. As time marches on, this gem becomes more and more relevant but…