There are defining moments in life. Moments that change your life and have a lasting effect. We often don’t realise at the time these moments come along and sometimes they fall on you with the same effect as Newton’s apple. The fruit fell from the tree for me on a spring day in March. More precisely, the 23rd of March…the day my life changed. That is the day that I reconnected with a lady who has brought again a new perspective into my life in terms of love, care and showing me what a true relationship can and should be.
This development has made me realise that despite my thoughts and fears, it is never too late to find the right one. After years of bad experience, I am finally in a place that I have wanted to be in for as long as I can remember. There are certain factors to this relationship that make it special and something I have never experienced before. It has proved to me that however long you have to wait, the right one is out there waiting. It is a question of finding them. Here I sit in Dubai writing this post and avoiding the sweltering heat outside. If someone had said to me two years ago that this would be the case, I would have suggested they seek treatment!! But here I am, on the verge of starting a new life with a lady I have truly fallen for. Yes, we disagree, sometimes have a difference of opinion. There are cultural factors at play sometimes. The key is that we handle conflict maturely and with respect and come through it stronger. It is so refreshing to have honest, open communication and not immature mind games, something I experienced in previous relationships.
There are never any guarantees in life and even less so in a relationship. They are generally hard work and bringing two individual personalities together can be extremely difficult. In this case, we are bringing together different two cultures, faiths and outlooks on the world. Yet the bedrock of a good relationship is the same no matter what and we have that. That is connection on all aspects, a common shared goal for our relationship, respect for one another, open honesty and above all, effective communication. All this has resulted in the one thing that holds a relationship together, trust.
I feel totally comfortable in her presence, a feeling I have never really had and I have already shared things with her that other long term partners were not privy to and it felt good to do so, very good. We laugh at stupid things, we joke, we discuss, we debate, we plan. She is my best friend, confidant and advisor when I need it and I am the same for her. It is truly the best thing that has ever happened to me and I can only see it growing and getting better as the years roll on.
So there is hope. I told myself after my last relationship ended that there is probably not cause to think that I will find that special “one”. Someone who I would feel comfortable with and importantly, introduce to my beautiful little son as my partner. I never thought I would have to go to the middle East to find it!
To Inass :
I think about the years I spent just passing through
I’d like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You’ve been there you understand
It’s all part of a grander plan that is coming true.