People Who Commit Suicide Are Not Selfish or Cowardly!!

The recent death of one of the funniest men on film has unearthed more debate about suicide and why people do it. One of the more unsavory elements of the coverage is the amount of people with the misplaced belief that suicide is a selfish and cowardly act taken by people who have no thought for the ones left behind. In effect, it is normally a result of a long tumultuous journey through mental illness and comes generally at a point when the sufferer may truly believe that those left behind would be far better off without them around.

Robin Williams gave something truly wonderful to the world in the form of art, creativity and laughter. However, he was blighted by a dark side. We never saw this in him and never guessed the turmoil he was going through but it was enough for him to want to leave this world. What went through his mind at the end, no one will know but I am sure he felt the world closing in on him slowly but surely.

Mental illness is that way. Living with severe depression or bipolar or any other depressive disorder means you have to fight every day. Not just against the stigma and prejudice that is often associated with sufferers but mostly with yourself. It can be controlled with medication or therapy or both but it is always there lurking in the background. As Hemingway said…it returns like an old friend every so often. This constant daily battle can be won but when a number of things come along at the same time, with no visible or viable solution in sight, things can become extremely difficult. It might then be difficult to get help from the same people who are always there, not because of them but due to the thought that you are a burden on them constantly. These thoughts can drive you to find solutions for yourself. I honestly believe that often people who commit suicide do not truly want to die but want to find a way to end the pain they are feeling. This need can lead to confusion about the right course of action.

I unfortunately know this from personal experience seen in my job and my own reality as a severely depressed youth when these thoughts often crossed my mind. I can tell you for sure that your own well-being is the last thing on your mind.

  11 comments for “People Who Commit Suicide Are Not Selfish or Cowardly!!

  1. georget086
    August 14, 2014 at 9:49 am

    Very well said 🙂

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  2. August 14, 2014 at 10:09 am

    This needs to be read by everyone, Dr. Jenner. I’ve seen & heard the insensitive comments about his death too. Those people are really showing a lack of empathy & sympathy towards not just his family but everyone that suffers from depression. Thank you for shedding light on this.

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  3. mandy
    August 14, 2014 at 10:11 am

    So well said. I posted the same last night, but you said it so much better. Thank you.

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  4. August 14, 2014 at 11:27 am

    Reblogged this on scarredgirl13's Blog and commented:
    Exactly my thoughts, just better worded. May Robin rest in piece, and hopefully the media ect leave his family to grieve

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  5. August 14, 2014 at 12:23 pm

    Suicide is not the cause of this tragic death, depression is. I only hope that this loss encourages more open acceptance of this heinous illness.

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  6. August 14, 2014 at 5:55 pm

    Hi Nicholas,
    Many thanks for taking the time to describe reality for so many people. I cannot remember a time when I haven’t been dying to die, having attempted it once and realising how badly it affected my parents. Rest assured, the day after they’re gone, I know where I’m going too! I am totally at peace with this, and hope by this time, the rest of the world will have had a chance to reflect on why different people make different choices. Thanks again 🙂 and I love your blog.

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  7. August 17, 2014 at 7:11 am

    Hi Nicholas,
    I love this post and especially the way you’ve explained suicide. Having Bipolar and attempted suicide myself, I can say I was not thinking of myself. You go to sleep crying thinking of those your about to hurt. Thing is you can’t stop your own hurt and feel there’s no alternative… you lose all hope and tomorrow is just too far away. You lose all reasoning. Hugs Paula xxx

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  8. August 17, 2014 at 7:41 am

    This is obviously a very emotive subject. Thanks to everyone who took the time to comment:

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  9. August 17, 2014 at 8:36 am

    Reblogged this on depressionexists and commented:
    Evening Everyone,
    Dr Nicholas Jenner has a great blog and some helpful information for those suffering a mental illness, or for those loved ones helping someone get through the dark days. It’s a touchy subject but a very important one to openly talk about. Love to you all, Paula xxx

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