As a therapist, I like to become involved with my clients. Encouraging, probing, challenging and motivating them means that my work can become fairly intense emotionally. I try to help this process by leaving enough time between appointments for my mind to rest and recover so that I can be “on the ball” for the next client.
Sometimes though, much as I love my work, I need more than the thirty minutes of relaxation time…I need that day or so when I keep out of my office and do something, anything else instead. This keeps the mind fresh and ready to help others with challenges. So what do I do in this period? I live in an area that is pure nature, green fields surrounded by dense forests and rolling hills. There is nothing better than getting out in the fresh air (with my pregnant wife and two dogs) to bring things back down to earth. This is a great time of year, warm sunshine, fresh breeze and things growing. I often advise my clients that a walk in the countryside can never do anyone any harm! The power of nature is well-known and two of my greatest influences have nature at the center of their belief. Carl Rogers, honed his view of life on his appreciation of all things natural. As a young boy he was fascinated by the consistency of nature and despite all our best efforts, how unwavering it is. The native Americans, a culture that intrigues me believe strongly in the spirit of nature. One of my favorite authors, Lewis Mehl-Madrona, quoted in his book Coyote Medicine that “our lives are regulated in stories passed down through the generations and these stories are tied to the land. The mistake we make is that we believe the Earth belongs to us. In essence we belong to the Earth and we will return to the Earth. The only time we hear bad stories is when we anger the spirits by trying to change the Earth for our own benefit without putting anything back”….enough said.
Secondly, I have a rather large, complicated garden. Complicated by the fact that it is terraced and on a slope. At the top, I have planted fruit trees at the top end and at the bottom, lawn and shrubs. I spent most of the weekend tending to these (as best I can with one good arm) and it is unbelievable how empowering it feels to see everything grow and flourish. It is rather like a relationship….the more work you put in, the better the results. Maybe my pastimes are not too far away from my work after all!
Dr. Nicholas Jenner is a Counseling psychologist in private practice working with individuals, couples, groups and companies. Apart from seeing clients face-to-face, Dr Jenner also runs a thriving online therapy business bringing help to those who are housebound or located in rural locations where therapy is difficult to find. For more information , follow the link to his website HERE
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